All posts by Ray Barbier

I am just an average man who loves writing, thinking and trying to inspire kindness, love, understanding and Compassion in others and try to find them within myself.

Random Thoughts 3-19-2015


In a great portion of religions in our world there is a universal belief in forgiveness. Buddha, Jesus and Mohammed showed mercy and forgiveness to both their friends and enemies.

A few scriptures/quotes:

Luke 6:37 (NIV) Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

 John 20:23 (NIV)23 If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.”

 

“Keep to forgiveness (O Muhammad), and enjoin kindness, and turn away from the ignorant.” (Quran 7:199)”

“Good and evil are not alike.  Repel evil with what is better.  Then he, between whom and you there was hatred, will become as though he was a bosom friend.” (Quran 41:34)”

“These two are fools. Which two? The one who doesn’t see his/her transgression as a transgression, and the one who doesn’t rightfully pardon another who has confessed his/her transgression. These two are fools. ~Buddha

When you forgive me for harming you, you decide not to retaliate, to seek no revenge. You don’t have to like me. You simply unburden yourself of the weight of resentment and cut the cycle of retribution that would otherwise keep us ensnarled in an ugly samsaric wrestling match. This is a gift you can give us both, totally on your own, without my having to know or understand what you’ve done. ~ Buddha

Now looking at those scriptures/quotes we can see forgiveness is something that is considered important to so many belief systems and/or religions.

Then why is it such a rarity in modern times? Why is their hatred, distrust and so much resentment in our world? Many read and hear the words , but few ever listen or want to embrace them. It is far easier to hate, resent and/or fear than to forgive and accept one another it seems. To hate someone because they are of a different race, religion or sex is not the right path to follow, we all are human, we all have problems, have emotions and most of us prefer to live in peace and harmony with each other.  Instead of hatred of what is different we should embrace our differences, this is what makes the human race a unique and marvelous species. Our diverse selection or religions and belief systems shouldn’t be what divides us, it should be what binds us through mutual understanding. There are similarities between most religions and we should focus on those things. Such things as forgiveness, compassion and love.

My wish is that every child of today and the future will be able to grow up happily, without war, prejudice and hatred. They deserve the freedom and happiness we have denied ourselves. It should be all about the children and the future generations not about our generations and our failings.

Freedom of Speech, Religion and Expression without the threat of oppression or consequence is the cornerstone of a utopian society. Prejudice, fear and the lack of compassion are the stumbling blocks of humanity.

Which path in life shall you choose?

IMG_1077_thumb.jpgI Wish Peace and Happiness To be in each one of your lives.
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 3-16-2015


me2_edited-1 Be yourself, Worry not about the opinions of others. Become a person whom you would love and respect and learn to love who you are faults and all.  Listen to advice but be wise and avoid following someone else’s ideals blindly. Forge your own path in life and be what you are destined to be.

You have been given a mind to reason out right from wrong, You have been given a heart to love and forgive. You have been given a lifetime to shine and be all you can be. You are the navigator of your own life path. Use all the gifts you have been given to make the wiser choices along the way.

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 3-13-2015


003Kindness, a quality rarely found in our society. Though there are the few kindhearted and compassionate few in each community.  Unfortunately kindness is not something most parents focus on teaching their child. Kindness is a considered either a weakness or luxury in some people’s minds. Focus on being successful socially and eventual financially is the norm.  I am not saying those things are not important, I am stressing that kindness and respect should share in  importance when it comes to teaching our children. Strength is not measured by ones cruelty , rudeness or lack of kindness. True strength is tempered with mercy, kindness and compassion.

Through a kind heart a community can learn to come together and take on the challenges that communities face. Through kindness and compassion a community can find the unity required to reduce such things as hunger, poverty and homelessness. Generosity also plays a big part in it all as well.

Kindness, Mercy, compassion and forgiveness mean far less when they are reserved only for those whom you know or love. They really show their worth and power when used on strangers and even those you consider as your  enemies.

Some Random Thoughts for you to think on.

Blessings to you all
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 3-12-2015


001You are unique, one of a kind and the only living being in the entire universe that’s exactly like you. Only you have the DNA sequence that you do, only you have had the experiences that you have had and the thoughts you think. Yes there may be those similar to you but none quite like you in whole.

Each one of us are unique and special because we are all one of a kinds. No one is greater or lesser in life, we all are equal and any belief there is a superior or lesser quality is an illusion and tragic disbelief that leads to unneeded injustices. There are those who are more suited for one tasks and less for another, this is part of the diversity which makes humanity the great creation we are. One may excel in physical prowess and another may excel academically. Both are important qualities needed by humanity and neither is greater or lesser than the other.  Once we as a species learn to overcome things such as prejudice, bigotry and elitism, we will finally be on the road to our true potential as a species.

We have a long road ahead of us, humanity is still plagued with fear, mistrust, greed and the injustice of inequality. Seems humans have a hard time letting go of tragedies and the mistakes in the past. This hinders humanity from moving forward and it jeopardizes the future of our species as a whole.  With so many issues to face in the present, wasting time holding grudges and fearing the unlikely we will find ourselves too preoccupied to find the solutions we need. Governments are too preoccupied and distracted by both political party differences and unnecessary rivalries between nations to focus on the real issues at hand.

Greed, fear and the lust of power has way to much power over those in Government, only if they could focus on the real issues and learn to work together. We all are equal in birth and we all in the end must face our equality in death. Seems the hardest part is facing our equality in the time we spend in-between the two. Maybe one day we will realize we all are equally special ,unique and in the differences between us there is more commonality than we acknowledge.

Well hope you enjoyed my Random Thoughts For today

Blessings and Happiness to all

Ray Barbier

Time to Extend my Gratitude to all


004Someone once asked me “Why do you bother writing blogs” and I explained that there are many reasons I spend my time writing them. First off I enjoy the thought process behind it, I find writing blogs / posts somewhat therapeutic and relaxing. Sometimes my posts are well liked, sometimes they don’t even get one like or view at all. Does this bother me? Not at all, I can not expect everyone to agree with my viewpoint nor for them to even take time to read them. I do however enjoy the likes, but most of all I enjoy the comments on my posts be they positive, negative or neutral . Some of the comments I have had in the past forced me to think and to expand my views.

My wish / Hope is that my post at least makes someone think and possibly expand their views as well. For some of the greatest gifts humanity has is the ability to reason, think and to be adaptive or creative.

Now I am going to take the time to Extend my Gratitude to all those whom spared their time to read my posts and to those who have commented. Thank you for taking the time to stop by my little blog and reading my silly little posts.

Thank you all and see you on the next post.

Random thoughts 2-14-2015


I always wonder why that people tend to be so negative in nature when life itself is something of wonder and of beauty. I understand how life tends to throw curve balls at us and how external influences can become roadblocks and pitfalls on our journey through life. Bad and unfortunate events occur, there is little we can do about those kind of things. All we can do is choose to either be someone who reacts to such things or be a person who has learned to act to minimize the negative effects of such. Being reactionary is to let instinct take control and not allow our reasoning skills to figure out the most beneficial action to take in response to the situation.

 

Being a reactionary type person is basically being someone who leaves most of his or her decisions in life up to chance. Sometimes we only have that choice, but most of the time we do have the choice and ability to reason out a better way to respond to circumstances than just instinctually. Putting it in a nutshell so to speak is to say it is better to think things through than just letting our instincts control our actions and reactions. Step back and look at the whole situation and all the circumstances surrounding it before taking any kind of action. For it is wise to think before you act instead of acting hastily without any thought of both the circumstances and consequences that one could face.

 

We always must remember that not only our actions can cause us to face consequences but also the words we speak. Responsibility of both our words and actions fall solely on ourselves, the consequences of both are our responsibility as well. In the end we shall face the consequences of our choices, actions and words. Be it through karma, judgement by a supreme being or just plain fate we will face our choices in life. So one would think it would be far wiser to be mindful of what actions and words you choose in life

 

A few quotes to ponder on…

 

Think before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another. – Napoleon Hill

 

Think before you act and act on what you believe. – Bo Bennett

 

Before you act, listen. Before you react, think. Before you spend,earn. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try. – Ernest Hemingway

 

 

 

 

Random Thoughts 2-10-2015


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There are times in life that you may feel like there’s nothing you can do to change the way things are going. A time in your life that nothing seems to be going your way. So much negativity surrounds you and you just can’t seem to pull your self out of the downward spiral that you’re in. You allow fear, self-doubt and indecision to stand in the way of your happiness as well as the progression of your spiritual growth. When you are immersed in negative emotions and you are blind to the possibilities around you, you fall prey to the belief that there is no hope.

Hope is something one should never lose, for if there is life there is always hope. One thing in life that is constant is change, no matter what one does there is nothing that can stop change from coming to pass. Even though we can not stop change, we do possess the ability to either enact change as well as in guide its course. Knowing that we can change not only our present situation but we can also somewhat guide what our future may contain. Of course we can not predict what external forces may come into play or what circumstances may arise in the future, but we can at least set ourselves onto a better course and possibly change our current destination to one more to our liking.

So no matter what you may be facing in your life at this moment, just remember that you have the power to change it within time. Keeping hope alive within your heart and mind is a must as well as keeping your self in a positive mindset. Do remember as well that relying or leaning on others is not weakness, it is a sign of both maturity and wisdom.

Walk in life with a heart that is open to loving everyone and everything , a closed heart is a dysfunctional heart.

Raymond Barbier

Random Thoughts 2-8-2015


DSC_0430One of the biggest enemies of success and happiness is doubting ourselves and having the lack of confidence in our ability to choose.  Walking through life with fear and without self-confidence makes for a very unhappy life. Without self-confidence we become wandering and unfocused, we have no direction in life.

What creates self-doubt and causes our self-confidence to dissipate? There are internal and external forces that play a part in such, most of the time it is either a period of time that we failed more than we could handle or we were told repeatedly by our peers that we were in some way deficient or inferior to others.

More than likely it was a combination of those two along with other experiences in our lives. I myself had to face my peers being degrading and did not accept me for who I was as a teen and child. As teens humans are quite cruel, though I do not think poorly of any of those whom played a part of such. When you’re a teen there is a lot of pressure to fit in, to be cool and it is when we develop our social skills. It is all part of the process of growing up and finding your place in society.

Regardless of where the self doubting began or how it took root within your mind matters less than how to correct such improper and negative thinking.  First off if you have any anger or hold any grudges against anyone who was a part of the problem, you have to forgive them and let them go in order to release yourself from the negative emotions tied to the experience. Those negative emotions will do nothing but block you from moving forward.

I have found many of those whom were mean or those who acted poorly towards me in my youth grew up to become some of the greatest people one could know. Also sometimes those who we thought were being mean really were nice people who were trying to keep from suffering the same fate as we faced. Fear of rejection or the fear of not being accepted is one of the most common fears among youths and some adults as well.

To rebuild ones confidence is not simple nor is it a quick task to complete. If you have friends and family that are supportive, those in your life that frequently give you praise or show gratitude for your efforts you should surround yourself with those kind of people. You should when possible avoid negative people who tend to bring you down emotionally, especially the ones that try to belittle you. In time once you rebuilt your confidence it wont matter much what others say be it complimentary or demeaning.

In life one must learn that to lean on others is not a sign of weakness but that it is a sign of wisdom. Humanity would have been extinct a long time ago if we didn’t learn to lean on one another and to combine our strengths as a group. Rebuilding confidence is different for each one of us, what works for one may not always work for another. But to seek help is wise and to find your own path is the best way.

I wish you well on your Journey Through Life and I leave you with a Quote from John Donne’s Meditation XVII:

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend’s or of thine own were: any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.

~John Donne: Meditation XVII

Random thoughts 2/1/2015


014_edited-2Facing the truth when it comes to your own self is one of the hardest things you have to face in life. Accepting that you are not invincible, that in fact you are as vulnerable as everyone else is hard to accept. Though I never thought I was a superman or anything along that lines, I did however believe I was far tougher than I found myself to be.  The human spirit can overcome almost anything that is thrown at it over time but in the end you still suffer the after effects of wrong decisions and unfortunate circumstances.

Strength isn’t as much the physical ability of a person  as it is the mental and/or spiritual fortitude they possess.  Knowing versus actual understanding is two different things as well. But even having understanding is useless if it is not brought to life through application and/or action.  Many of profound ideas and thought have been laid to waste by the lack of someone bringing them to life through action.

So the old adage of putting your money where your mouth is comes to mind as well as practice as you preach.  I say this to myself often now as I grow older, I realize that even though I have greatest of intentions that without putting them into action or living by them they are but pretty thoughts and words.  So I say to you all if you believe in something, have grand and wondrous ideas do not allow them to be laid to waste by inaction.  Don’t let them be nothing more than good intentions that never become a part of reality.

 

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 1/25/2015


HPIM0063The amount of time we all have in a lifetime in microscopic compared to how long the universe has existed. Life is so precious because we have so little time to experience it. With this in mind we should be good to one another, be compassionate and forgiving. We all are only human after all, we all make mistakes, poor choices and get lost on our way through life.  Find what makes you happy and go obtain it and do it with a good heart. Think hard and examine what is important in your life, some things you may see as important may not be and some things you may see as worthless may be the most important to you in the end.

Not one individual is greater or more important than another, that illusion  has caused injustice and an imbalance in our world. We all are equal in the stream of time and on the path of life, we all must face the fate of being physically mortal.  Age, disease and sickness cares little about social or financial statuses, we all are victims of such. So we should cherish one another and be respectful to each other. We need to put aside the foolish beliefs that one human is greater or lesser than another.

This world is in need of great change, a great change of the mindset of both those in power and those whom are not. But change will not come without it having a place to take root. Change always must start within yourself and then be spread outward, Plant a seed of positive change within yourself and be a Johnny Appleseed of a better world and a brighter future.

To end todays Random Thoughts I leave you with a Quote from a song by the late Michael Jackson

If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change ~ Michael Jackson “Man in the Mirror”