Random thought 7/30/15

When I Look at the smile on my niece’s face it reminds me of a time when I believe in humanity. It brings back the hope and wonder I once felt as child. It also makes me think about the world we are living in today and if as a whole we all don’t change course the world she will inherit will be one full of turmoil, fear and hate.

Hope is still in my heart that one day humanity will learn to get along with itself and all other living beings, creatures alike. Maybe one day we will learn to look beyond the illusion of separation and the misconception that one person can be above or below another. We all come into this world the same way and we all have only one way out. So between the miracle of birth and the certainty of death we should find the strength and courage to put aside all our differences to make a better world for the children of today to inherit as well as the future generations yet to come.

Truthfully most of the so-called differences between each of us is superficial or non-existent. We all desire happiness and peace within our lifetime. We all want a better world for the children and a happier existence for both ourselves and those around us. Only when we put aside such things as greed, fear and hate will we as a species be able to survive and flourish.

When I look at the smile on my niece’s face I see the hope of humanity, in the eyes of every child I see humanity’s salvation. The Children are the key to our future and we are the ones who decide what direction this world will be heading when those children inherit it from us.

Random Thoughts–7/3/2015

tmeReset to Zero, Put behind you the memories that do you more harm than good. Reset the counter and start over, give yourself another chance like you know you should. Let go of the past, worry little of the future because the present is where you belong. Put away your anger, fear and sadness and sing out your life song. Don’t allow others to control your mood and become the navigator of your own life. Learn its far better to choose your path than to leave yourself in an ocean of strife.

The past is to learn from, the future is there to inspire you to change and grow. The present is where you live, it is where you are at all times of the day. We can not travel backwards and we surely can not jump ahead. We must live by the rules of time, we must be creatures of the here and now.  Forgiveness is but a way of releasing the hurt and pain that we accumulated in the past. Understanding is something we use to avoid hurt and pain in the present. Love is something that exists in all time and space. Love is the fuel for the heart and soul. Without love we would be less than alive, we would have little purpose to continue forward in time.

Each day you live is the day to change and grow. You are unique and special, for everyone is not the same.  Be who you are and be true to yourself as well. For being someone you are not is silly and unproductive. Follow your own heart and mind and let others walk their own path as well.

Worry not if a person likes you or not, for it is what you think about yourself that matters most. Just be the best you that you can be and show mercy, compassion and understanding to others. Be an example of what you see as a good person. Life is way too short to allow others to influence you in a negative way. So steer clear of negative people if you can not limit their influence they have on you. For Negativity don’t only affect your mind, it also affects your overall physical health as well.

Be Positive, thoughtful and aim at being a good example for others to follow. Leave a legacy of kindness, compassion, peace and love for the younger generation to learn by. It is your life, your choice and the time is now.

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015

011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.



The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

It is your Story, your life that you live.

010It is your Story, your life that you live. No one can take that away from you. You own you story and your life, no person can live your life or story.  How you live you life and how your story goes is solely up to you. The limitations you set for yourself as well as the boundaries define the outline of your story.  You are unique and one of a kind, no other human is exactly like you. Each one of us are special and not one is greater or lesser. The illusion of superiority or inferiority is the result of our choice to believe in such things. There are those whom can do one or more things better than another, but this is true in all of us. We all have our gifts, talents and natural abilities. The diversity of such things within our species gives us a great advantage in surviving this harsh world. Along with our ability to rely on each others strengths and being there for each other when it comes to our weaknesses and short comings.

The Division created in our society over such things as wealth, popularity, competition and egotism is only weakening us as a species in whole. We need to look past such things and learn such things as compassion, co-operation and acceptance of one another as is. Greed, envy and the misfortune reality of inequality in our modern world are stumbling blocks if not a huge road block in the way of our species advancement and survival.

And still our world is plagued with the age-old problems such as racism, sexism, nationalism and elitism. These of course stem from the emotion of fear. Fear is one of the biggest stumbling blocks humanity has. Fear is one of the strongest emotions we have and one of the hardest to overcome and/or repress. Anger is another of the emotions we as humans have a lot of trouble with. Most people have a hard time letting anger go and forgiving the trespasses of others. Anger and fear both can consume ones mind to the point where rational thinking is no longer possible.

We all are a part of the world we live in, regardless of the differences we have between each other as humans. Celebrate your unique and individuality, but remember we are all connected through the common thread of our species. The survival, happiness and wellbeing of each other should have as much importance as that of our own.  Humanity only survived this long due to our ability to work together.

Only if we can overcome our weaknesses such as greed, selfishness and fear will we be able to continue surviving as a species. We need to put  behind us such things as bigotry, elitism, separatism  and social classes . Learn to be compassionate, community minded and most of all understanding of each others shortcomings . The choice of how you interact and react with other people is your own and how you do so determines how they perceive you and  how they will interact with you as well.


Well that’s some collected random thoughts from a few weeks.

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 3-19-2015

In a great portion of religions in our world there is a universal belief in forgiveness. Buddha, Jesus and Mohammed showed mercy and forgiveness to both their friends and enemies.

A few scriptures/quotes:

Luke 6:37 (NIV) Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

 John 20:23 (NIV)23 If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.”


“Keep to forgiveness (O Muhammad), and enjoin kindness, and turn away from the ignorant.” (Quran 7:199)”

“Good and evil are not alike.  Repel evil with what is better.  Then he, between whom and you there was hatred, will become as though he was a bosom friend.” (Quran 41:34)”

“These two are fools. Which two? The one who doesn’t see his/her transgression as a transgression, and the one who doesn’t rightfully pardon another who has confessed his/her transgression. These two are fools. ~Buddha

When you forgive me for harming you, you decide not to retaliate, to seek no revenge. You don’t have to like me. You simply unburden yourself of the weight of resentment and cut the cycle of retribution that would otherwise keep us ensnarled in an ugly samsaric wrestling match. This is a gift you can give us both, totally on your own, without my having to know or understand what you’ve done. ~ Buddha

Now looking at those scriptures/quotes we can see forgiveness is something that is considered important to so many belief systems and/or religions.

Then why is it such a rarity in modern times? Why is their hatred, distrust and so much resentment in our world? Many read and hear the words , but few ever listen or want to embrace them. It is far easier to hate, resent and/or fear than to forgive and accept one another it seems. To hate someone because they are of a different race, religion or sex is not the right path to follow, we all are human, we all have problems, have emotions and most of us prefer to live in peace and harmony with each other.  Instead of hatred of what is different we should embrace our differences, this is what makes the human race a unique and marvelous species. Our diverse selection or religions and belief systems shouldn’t be what divides us, it should be what binds us through mutual understanding. There are similarities between most religions and we should focus on those things. Such things as forgiveness, compassion and love.

My wish is that every child of today and the future will be able to grow up happily, without war, prejudice and hatred. They deserve the freedom and happiness we have denied ourselves. It should be all about the children and the future generations not about our generations and our failings.

Freedom of Speech, Religion and Expression without the threat of oppression or consequence is the cornerstone of a utopian society. Prejudice, fear and the lack of compassion are the stumbling blocks of humanity.

Which path in life shall you choose?

IMG_1077_thumb.jpgI Wish Peace and Happiness To be in each one of your lives.
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 3-12-2015

001You are unique, one of a kind and the only living being in the entire universe that’s exactly like you. Only you have the DNA sequence that you do, only you have had the experiences that you have had and the thoughts you think. Yes there may be those similar to you but none quite like you in whole.

Each one of us are unique and special because we are all one of a kinds. No one is greater or lesser in life, we all are equal and any belief there is a superior or lesser quality is an illusion and tragic disbelief that leads to unneeded injustices. There are those who are more suited for one tasks and less for another, this is part of the diversity which makes humanity the great creation we are. One may excel in physical prowess and another may excel academically. Both are important qualities needed by humanity and neither is greater or lesser than the other.  Once we as a species learn to overcome things such as prejudice, bigotry and elitism, we will finally be on the road to our true potential as a species.

We have a long road ahead of us, humanity is still plagued with fear, mistrust, greed and the injustice of inequality. Seems humans have a hard time letting go of tragedies and the mistakes in the past. This hinders humanity from moving forward and it jeopardizes the future of our species as a whole.  With so many issues to face in the present, wasting time holding grudges and fearing the unlikely we will find ourselves too preoccupied to find the solutions we need. Governments are too preoccupied and distracted by both political party differences and unnecessary rivalries between nations to focus on the real issues at hand.

Greed, fear and the lust of power has way to much power over those in Government, only if they could focus on the real issues and learn to work together. We all are equal in birth and we all in the end must face our equality in death. Seems the hardest part is facing our equality in the time we spend in-between the two. Maybe one day we will realize we all are equally special ,unique and in the differences between us there is more commonality than we acknowledge.

Well hope you enjoyed my Random Thoughts For today

Blessings and Happiness to all

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 2-10-2015


There are times in life that you may feel like there’s nothing you can do to change the way things are going. A time in your life that nothing seems to be going your way. So much negativity surrounds you and you just can’t seem to pull your self out of the downward spiral that you’re in. You allow fear, self-doubt and indecision to stand in the way of your happiness as well as the progression of your spiritual growth. When you are immersed in negative emotions and you are blind to the possibilities around you, you fall prey to the belief that there is no hope.

Hope is something one should never lose, for if there is life there is always hope. One thing in life that is constant is change, no matter what one does there is nothing that can stop change from coming to pass. Even though we can not stop change, we do possess the ability to either enact change as well as in guide its course. Knowing that we can change not only our present situation but we can also somewhat guide what our future may contain. Of course we can not predict what external forces may come into play or what circumstances may arise in the future, but we can at least set ourselves onto a better course and possibly change our current destination to one more to our liking.

So no matter what you may be facing in your life at this moment, just remember that you have the power to change it within time. Keeping hope alive within your heart and mind is a must as well as keeping your self in a positive mindset. Do remember as well that relying or leaning on others is not weakness, it is a sign of both maturity and wisdom.

Walk in life with a heart that is open to loving everyone and everything , a closed heart is a dysfunctional heart.

Raymond Barbier

Random Thoughts 2-8-2015

DSC_0430One of the biggest enemies of success and happiness is doubting ourselves and having the lack of confidence in our ability to choose.  Walking through life with fear and without self-confidence makes for a very unhappy life. Without self-confidence we become wandering and unfocused, we have no direction in life.

What creates self-doubt and causes our self-confidence to dissipate? There are internal and external forces that play a part in such, most of the time it is either a period of time that we failed more than we could handle or we were told repeatedly by our peers that we were in some way deficient or inferior to others.

More than likely it was a combination of those two along with other experiences in our lives. I myself had to face my peers being degrading and did not accept me for who I was as a teen and child. As teens humans are quite cruel, though I do not think poorly of any of those whom played a part of such. When you’re a teen there is a lot of pressure to fit in, to be cool and it is when we develop our social skills. It is all part of the process of growing up and finding your place in society.

Regardless of where the self doubting began or how it took root within your mind matters less than how to correct such improper and negative thinking.  First off if you have any anger or hold any grudges against anyone who was a part of the problem, you have to forgive them and let them go in order to release yourself from the negative emotions tied to the experience. Those negative emotions will do nothing but block you from moving forward.

I have found many of those whom were mean or those who acted poorly towards me in my youth grew up to become some of the greatest people one could know. Also sometimes those who we thought were being mean really were nice people who were trying to keep from suffering the same fate as we faced. Fear of rejection or the fear of not being accepted is one of the most common fears among youths and some adults as well.

To rebuild ones confidence is not simple nor is it a quick task to complete. If you have friends and family that are supportive, those in your life that frequently give you praise or show gratitude for your efforts you should surround yourself with those kind of people. You should when possible avoid negative people who tend to bring you down emotionally, especially the ones that try to belittle you. In time once you rebuilt your confidence it wont matter much what others say be it complimentary or demeaning.

In life one must learn that to lean on others is not a sign of weakness but that it is a sign of wisdom. Humanity would have been extinct a long time ago if we didn’t learn to lean on one another and to combine our strengths as a group. Rebuilding confidence is different for each one of us, what works for one may not always work for another. But to seek help is wise and to find your own path is the best way.

I wish you well on your Journey Through Life and I leave you with a Quote from John Donne’s Meditation XVII:

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend’s or of thine own were: any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.

~John Donne: Meditation XVII

Random Thoughts 1/13/2015

p10109Every word you say, thought you think and action you take creates the path you shall walk in life. Not only do they set your path in life they also influence and affect others as well.  Such things as gossip, lies and words of negativity can lead to the  degradation of the wielder and well as the person they are aimed at. Negative thoughts and words are double-edged swords, they harm not only the target but also the one who wields them.  This is why lies, gossip and negative and degrading words and/or thought are not something one would want to embrace and/or use. Words of positivity, encouragement and words of truth are also a double edge swords, but with these one will find strength and self-respect. Though the truth can cause harm through the revelation of dark secrets and so on, but it also in the end brings healing and new beginnings as well.  There is always the saying that goes if you have nothing good or positive to say then say nothing at all. In the end it is always hard to always be encouraging and positive in a world so full of hate, fear and pain. But the more of us whom chose the higher road of being a positive force in this world the less power hate, fear and negativity will have.  Being we are all human and that we are all basically the same there is little reason why we couldn’t come to accept one another and become a positive and thriving species. In the end it’s all up to ourselves to choose how we live this life and which path we walk on during this journey of life. How we treat others and ourselves is all that will be remembered about us when our journey ends.

Just some Random Thought for you all to ponder. Be they right or wrong they are here for all to see.

Raymond Barbier.

Random Thoughts:12-14-2014

rayrayd_edited-1When we are young we rarely think of death, we lack the fear of death and the we don’t understand the fact life is fleeting and temporary.  That innocence we had as children made life so wonderful and free, unfortunately as we grow older we experience the loss of friends, family and others around us. Slowly the reality of our mortality sinks in and bit by bit our innocence disappears. Instead of owning both our life and our eventual end we tend to slowly give in to fear. That fear strips us of our happiness and steals the time we are supposed to enjoy living.

Life is not supposed to be all about fearing its end, its supposed to be about living in the moment and enjoying the precious time we have with those whom we love and enjoy being with. Being our life is so short , we should try to be loving, caring and compassionate beings and learn to love and forgive one another unconditionally.

Unfortunately there is always great injustice in this world as well as inequality. Though a lot of that is beyond our control , but a good part of it is within our own hands to change. If each one of us lived our lives respecting one another and embracing one another as unique individuals and equals then a good part of what ails society would be diminished.  There will always be problems to face in this world be it on the street or in the high offices of government. This will not change until the heart of humanity changes within its self.

To end todays Random Thoughts I will leave you with a quote from a popular song that rings true in my heart at least.

He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother– The Hollies  (1969)