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Random Thoughts 2-10-2015


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There are times in life that you may feel like there’s nothing you can do to change the way things are going. A time in your life that nothing seems to be going your way. So much negativity surrounds you and you just can’t seem to pull your self out of the downward spiral that you’re in. You allow fear, self-doubt and indecision to stand in the way of your happiness as well as the progression of your spiritual growth. When you are immersed in negative emotions and you are blind to the possibilities around you, you fall prey to the belief that there is no hope.

Hope is something one should never lose, for if there is life there is always hope. One thing in life that is constant is change, no matter what one does there is nothing that can stop change from coming to pass. Even though we can not stop change, we do possess the ability to either enact change as well as in guide its course. Knowing that we can change not only our present situation but we can also somewhat guide what our future may contain. Of course we can not predict what external forces may come into play or what circumstances may arise in the future, but we can at least set ourselves onto a better course and possibly change our current destination to one more to our liking.

So no matter what you may be facing in your life at this moment, just remember that you have the power to change it within time. Keeping hope alive within your heart and mind is a must as well as keeping your self in a positive mindset. Do remember as well that relying or leaning on others is not weakness, it is a sign of both maturity and wisdom.

Walk in life with a heart that is open to loving everyone and everything , a closed heart is a dysfunctional heart.

Raymond Barbier

Random Thoughts 2-8-2015


DSC_0430One of the biggest enemies of success and happiness is doubting ourselves and having the lack of confidence in our ability to choose.  Walking through life with fear and without self-confidence makes for a very unhappy life. Without self-confidence we become wandering and unfocused, we have no direction in life.

What creates self-doubt and causes our self-confidence to dissipate? There are internal and external forces that play a part in such, most of the time it is either a period of time that we failed more than we could handle or we were told repeatedly by our peers that we were in some way deficient or inferior to others.

More than likely it was a combination of those two along with other experiences in our lives. I myself had to face my peers being degrading and did not accept me for who I was as a teen and child. As teens humans are quite cruel, though I do not think poorly of any of those whom played a part of such. When you’re a teen there is a lot of pressure to fit in, to be cool and it is when we develop our social skills. It is all part of the process of growing up and finding your place in society.

Regardless of where the self doubting began or how it took root within your mind matters less than how to correct such improper and negative thinking.  First off if you have any anger or hold any grudges against anyone who was a part of the problem, you have to forgive them and let them go in order to release yourself from the negative emotions tied to the experience. Those negative emotions will do nothing but block you from moving forward.

I have found many of those whom were mean or those who acted poorly towards me in my youth grew up to become some of the greatest people one could know. Also sometimes those who we thought were being mean really were nice people who were trying to keep from suffering the same fate as we faced. Fear of rejection or the fear of not being accepted is one of the most common fears among youths and some adults as well.

To rebuild ones confidence is not simple nor is it a quick task to complete. If you have friends and family that are supportive, those in your life that frequently give you praise or show gratitude for your efforts you should surround yourself with those kind of people. You should when possible avoid negative people who tend to bring you down emotionally, especially the ones that try to belittle you. In time once you rebuilt your confidence it wont matter much what others say be it complimentary or demeaning.

In life one must learn that to lean on others is not a sign of weakness but that it is a sign of wisdom. Humanity would have been extinct a long time ago if we didn’t learn to lean on one another and to combine our strengths as a group. Rebuilding confidence is different for each one of us, what works for one may not always work for another. But to seek help is wise and to find your own path is the best way.

I wish you well on your Journey Through Life and I leave you with a Quote from John Donne’s Meditation XVII:

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend’s or of thine own were: any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.

~John Donne: Meditation XVII

Random Thoughts 1/13/2015


p10109Every word you say, thought you think and action you take creates the path you shall walk in life. Not only do they set your path in life they also influence and affect others as well.  Such things as gossip, lies and words of negativity can lead to the  degradation of the wielder and well as the person they are aimed at. Negative thoughts and words are double-edged swords, they harm not only the target but also the one who wields them.  This is why lies, gossip and negative and degrading words and/or thought are not something one would want to embrace and/or use. Words of positivity, encouragement and words of truth are also a double edge swords, but with these one will find strength and self-respect. Though the truth can cause harm through the revelation of dark secrets and so on, but it also in the end brings healing and new beginnings as well.  There is always the saying that goes if you have nothing good or positive to say then say nothing at all. In the end it is always hard to always be encouraging and positive in a world so full of hate, fear and pain. But the more of us whom chose the higher road of being a positive force in this world the less power hate, fear and negativity will have.  Being we are all human and that we are all basically the same there is little reason why we couldn’t come to accept one another and become a positive and thriving species. In the end it’s all up to ourselves to choose how we live this life and which path we walk on during this journey of life. How we treat others and ourselves is all that will be remembered about us when our journey ends.

Just some Random Thought for you all to ponder. Be they right or wrong they are here for all to see.

Raymond Barbier.

Random Thoughts:12-14-2014


rayrayd_edited-1When we are young we rarely think of death, we lack the fear of death and the we don’t understand the fact life is fleeting and temporary.  That innocence we had as children made life so wonderful and free, unfortunately as we grow older we experience the loss of friends, family and others around us. Slowly the reality of our mortality sinks in and bit by bit our innocence disappears. Instead of owning both our life and our eventual end we tend to slowly give in to fear. That fear strips us of our happiness and steals the time we are supposed to enjoy living.

Life is not supposed to be all about fearing its end, its supposed to be about living in the moment and enjoying the precious time we have with those whom we love and enjoy being with. Being our life is so short , we should try to be loving, caring and compassionate beings and learn to love and forgive one another unconditionally.

Unfortunately there is always great injustice in this world as well as inequality. Though a lot of that is beyond our control , but a good part of it is within our own hands to change. If each one of us lived our lives respecting one another and embracing one another as unique individuals and equals then a good part of what ails society would be diminished.  There will always be problems to face in this world be it on the street or in the high offices of government. This will not change until the heart of humanity changes within its self.

To end todays Random Thoughts I will leave you with a quote from a popular song that rings true in my heart at least.

He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother- The Hollies  (1969)

Random Thoughts–11/30/2014


IMG_1078Sometimes I wonder when we  as a society went from being content with the wonderful things we have been blessed with to being envious of what others may have better than us. We have become a society driven by  personal possessions and social status and that is not a positive thing. When we begin to value inanimate objects above the wellbeing and lives of other people we have lost the precious attributes that make us human.

No amount of money,gold or precious stones are worth more than the life of a human being. No difference of opinion, differences in religious beliefs or political party should be more important than the life of any human. Sure we need to hash out those differences or learn to accept that not every person will believe or think the same. We should have respect for another persons right to be an individual and their right to believe and think as they desire.

We need to return to a path of respect, compassion and of tolerance. Humanity has enough challenges to face in the present and future. We should be civilized and mature enough to see beyond such things as racism, elitism and intolerance.  Fear and hate has too much power in our modern world and it shouldn’t.  It is shameful that as old as the human race is that we still fall prey to emotions that are primitive.  Still amazing how quick we give in to our negative emotions and how hard it seems for us to embrace the more positive ones such as compassion, love and empathy.

Random Thoughts on 10/22/2014


003We face so many trials in life and many pitfalls fill our path in life. The modern world is good at distracting us, it keeps our minds so full of random information  and it fills  our eyes with intense stimuli. All this to keep us from being focused on the real issues before us and to keep us too busy to notice what is really going on around us.  Seems we rather look at the pretty lights sometimes than to see the problems right in front of us. Sometimes we ignore the problems in hopes that they will go away or fix themselves. Well unfortunately they don’t fix themselves or go away they either turn into different problems or they remain a problem.

We must face our problems be they personal, community or global in nature. We need to focus more on life than on the distractions this world throws at us.  All life has value, we all are unique and important and we all play a part in this world if we want to accept it or not. No ones voice is less important nor is anyone’s voice more important than another’s. We all have emotions, thought and are a part of the tapestry that is life. The illusion of superiority or inferiority are but stumbling blocks on  our path to spiritual growth.

Between distractions of the modern world, fear and our illusive belief  in that individuals have different levels of worth in life, we have been blinded to the truth. We fall prey to being judgmental and accepting the judgments of our peers. We do not need to judge one another, we are here to have fellowship, companionship and aid one another through life.  We all have shortcomings and we all also have good points as well as blessings. No one is different in that respect, we all face life and its roller coaster of change and unexpected events.

Such old adages as Know thyself and to one’s self be true are concepts that still ring true in the modern world. I say be yourself and love who you are, love others without judgment and be true to yourself and to others. Honesty and compassion are both good qualities found in humanity and are cornerstones to a better society.

Well enough of my totally random thoughts for today, God bless and may you find happiness within who and what you are.

Ray Barbier

keep our hands on the rudder and learn to live in the here and now.


IMG_1276There are times when I feel like I’m on a boat floating down a turbulent stream. The Present rapidly turning into the past and the future always being the present. By the time I get a chance to glance at the shore line beside me it’s already behind me and what is ahead goes by me too fast for me to enjoy. We travel through time in one direction and at a pretty good speed. Though it may seem too fast at times I have learned to cherish the moment at hand far more than the moments gone or yet to be had.

There are times I look backward too long and miss the present and I find myself missing the wondrous things the present had in store for me. Other times I had looked too far ahead and found my course had been altered by the streams current. I have learned to cherish the moment at hand and focus on today and keep my hand on the rudder at all times. I no longer linger in the past nor do I worry about the future like I used to. I still plan for the future and remember the lessons of the past though. I just don’t let them get in the way of living my life or experiencing the here and now.

We all are time travelers, Traveling through the present into the future at a pretty good pace. We must keep our hands on the rudder and learn to live in the here and now. Worry not about the future it will become what we make of it in the present and worry not of the past for it has long been gone.

Raymond Barbier

The Human Spirit and Fellowship


tpl_7_pplIt is amazing how people can go through so much pain, loss and tragedy  and still stand strong. The human spirit can overcome almost anything that is thrown at it, especially when there are those around you to lend some of their love and strength to you. When we stand together we are far stronger than when we stand alone. The friendship and fellowship between us are but bonds of love on many levels. This bond is part of the strength that keeps us from falling and giving up.

hnd0002  This is why it is important to have you hand extended to all that are in need, not only do you help them with your strength and compassion they become a part of your strength if you allow them. The more you befriend the more strength you have at your disposal and the more you can help others, be they friends or not. We must not limit our compassion to family or our circle of friends for that only limits our strength and our ability to grow.

dd43853We are here to lean on one another when we are not as strong and lend each other support and each others strength to get through the rough times. We are here to celebrate life together and enjoy the blessings we have. As long as we don’t allow selfishness, pride and fear to fill our hearts there is little we can not accomplish or overcome.

 

We should not waste time fearing death, instead we should spend that time cherishing life and those we share life with.

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 9/14/2014


Sometimes we tend to get so wrapped up in ourselves that we can see the world outside. We get so caught up in our dreams, troubles and the stress of the daily grind and we allow so many wondrous sights to be unseen. So many moments of value we let slip by out of our tendency to be self involved. We also allow ourselves to get into a negative cycle of emotions when we become too focused only on our own life and circumstances.

As an individual we are not the center of the universe and we should realize there are others around us, and just like us they have feelings, desires and problems in their life. To be self-centered or focused only on your self is not a good way to live, it tends to keep you from experiencing so many grand things such as fellowship, friendship, family and community. We are social creatures by nature and to deny our selves of the sense of community is to deny ourselves from the main part of being alive and human.

In the extreme sense, being selfish and self-centered is what leads to jealousy, hatred, greed, fear and eventually wars.  To be humble and selfless is a better way to live, For no war has ever been started by a humble person who put others before themselves. Nor does selflessness and being humble lead to anger or fear. Worry less about keeping up with your neighbors in possessions and worry more about the guy down the road who may have no place to sleep or any food to eat. One day you could be that homeless and hungry person, for nothing in life is concrete or guaranteed.

Though money makes life easier , it does not make one happier, nor do possessions. Love, companionship and being a part of the world we live in brings far more joy and is more permanent than riches and or fame. For money and fame are fleeting kind of like physical beauty and youth.

Well enough of my ramblings for today, May your path in life be one of contentment and compassion and may you find that which makes you truly happy in life.

God Bless

Ray Barbier003

Fear, faith and hope–random thoughts 8-30-2014


african-sunset_w725_h483There are those that seek to control others with fear, they for some reason believe that instilling fear in others gives them power. The thing with fear is one can overcome it, learn to channel it and also learn to let it pass through them. The bible teaches us the only one and or thing we must fear is God. No man nor woman can destroy that which god has given you unless it be his will. So learn to replace the fear that other humans try to  instill within you with faith in God and his promises. Whom shall you believe and whom shall you fear is solely your decision, God gave us that power when he gave all of us freewill.

Only God can take away your immortal soul, he is the only one that can give you access to heaven or deny you entrance as well. No man can take away the treasures you stow away in heaven, all a man or woman can do is take away the things of this earth. All things on and in this earth are temporary and no one or thing that is of this earth shall remain past their time allotted by God. So worry little over matters of the world and be as God desires, loving , forgiving and good examples of the children of God we have been created to be.

Fear has no power when confronted with Faith and Hope.

Ray Barbier

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