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Random thoughts 2-14-2015


I always wonder why that people tend to be so negative in nature when life itself is something of wonder and of beauty. I understand how life tends to throw curve balls at us and how external influences can become roadblocks and pitfalls on our journey through life. Bad and unfortunate events occur, there is little we can do about those kind of things. All we can do is choose to either be someone who reacts to such things or be a person who has learned to act to minimize the negative effects of such. Being reactionary is to let instinct take control and not allow our reasoning skills to figure out the most beneficial action to take in response to the situation.

 

Being a reactionary type person is basically being someone who leaves most of his or her decisions in life up to chance. Sometimes we only have that choice, but most of the time we do have the choice and ability to reason out a better way to respond to circumstances than just instinctually. Putting it in a nutshell so to speak is to say it is better to think things through than just letting our instincts control our actions and reactions. Step back and look at the whole situation and all the circumstances surrounding it before taking any kind of action. For it is wise to think before you act instead of acting hastily without any thought of both the circumstances and consequences that one could face.

 

We always must remember that not only our actions can cause us to face consequences but also the words we speak. Responsibility of both our words and actions fall solely on ourselves, the consequences of both are our responsibility as well. In the end we shall face the consequences of our choices, actions and words. Be it through karma, judgement by a supreme being or just plain fate we will face our choices in life. So one would think it would be far wiser to be mindful of what actions and words you choose in life

 

A few quotes to ponder on…

 

Think before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another. – Napoleon Hill

 

Think before you act and act on what you believe. – Bo Bennett

 

Before you act, listen. Before you react, think. Before you spend,earn. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try. – Ernest Hemingway

 

 

 

 

Random Thoughts 2-10-2015


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There are times in life that you may feel like there’s nothing you can do to change the way things are going. A time in your life that nothing seems to be going your way. So much negativity surrounds you and you just can’t seem to pull your self out of the downward spiral that you’re in. You allow fear, self-doubt and indecision to stand in the way of your happiness as well as the progression of your spiritual growth. When you are immersed in negative emotions and you are blind to the possibilities around you, you fall prey to the belief that there is no hope.

Hope is something one should never lose, for if there is life there is always hope. One thing in life that is constant is change, no matter what one does there is nothing that can stop change from coming to pass. Even though we can not stop change, we do possess the ability to either enact change as well as in guide its course. Knowing that we can change not only our present situation but we can also somewhat guide what our future may contain. Of course we can not predict what external forces may come into play or what circumstances may arise in the future, but we can at least set ourselves onto a better course and possibly change our current destination to one more to our liking.

So no matter what you may be facing in your life at this moment, just remember that you have the power to change it within time. Keeping hope alive within your heart and mind is a must as well as keeping your self in a positive mindset. Do remember as well that relying or leaning on others is not weakness, it is a sign of both maturity and wisdom.

Walk in life with a heart that is open to loving everyone and everything , a closed heart is a dysfunctional heart.

Raymond Barbier

Random Thoughts 2-8-2015


DSC_0430One of the biggest enemies of success and happiness is doubting ourselves and having the lack of confidence in our ability to choose.  Walking through life with fear and without self-confidence makes for a very unhappy life. Without self-confidence we become wandering and unfocused, we have no direction in life.

What creates self-doubt and causes our self-confidence to dissipate? There are internal and external forces that play a part in such, most of the time it is either a period of time that we failed more than we could handle or we were told repeatedly by our peers that we were in some way deficient or inferior to others.

More than likely it was a combination of those two along with other experiences in our lives. I myself had to face my peers being degrading and did not accept me for who I was as a teen and child. As teens humans are quite cruel, though I do not think poorly of any of those whom played a part of such. When you’re a teen there is a lot of pressure to fit in, to be cool and it is when we develop our social skills. It is all part of the process of growing up and finding your place in society.

Regardless of where the self doubting began or how it took root within your mind matters less than how to correct such improper and negative thinking.  First off if you have any anger or hold any grudges against anyone who was a part of the problem, you have to forgive them and let them go in order to release yourself from the negative emotions tied to the experience. Those negative emotions will do nothing but block you from moving forward.

I have found many of those whom were mean or those who acted poorly towards me in my youth grew up to become some of the greatest people one could know. Also sometimes those who we thought were being mean really were nice people who were trying to keep from suffering the same fate as we faced. Fear of rejection or the fear of not being accepted is one of the most common fears among youths and some adults as well.

To rebuild ones confidence is not simple nor is it a quick task to complete. If you have friends and family that are supportive, those in your life that frequently give you praise or show gratitude for your efforts you should surround yourself with those kind of people. You should when possible avoid negative people who tend to bring you down emotionally, especially the ones that try to belittle you. In time once you rebuilt your confidence it wont matter much what others say be it complimentary or demeaning.

In life one must learn that to lean on others is not a sign of weakness but that it is a sign of wisdom. Humanity would have been extinct a long time ago if we didn’t learn to lean on one another and to combine our strengths as a group. Rebuilding confidence is different for each one of us, what works for one may not always work for another. But to seek help is wise and to find your own path is the best way.

I wish you well on your Journey Through Life and I leave you with a Quote from John Donne’s Meditation XVII:

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend’s or of thine own were: any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.

~John Donne: Meditation XVII

Random thoughts 2/1/2015


014_edited-2Facing the truth when it comes to your own self is one of the hardest things you have to face in life. Accepting that you are not invincible, that in fact you are as vulnerable as everyone else is hard to accept. Though I never thought I was a superman or anything along that lines, I did however believe I was far tougher than I found myself to be.  The human spirit can overcome almost anything that is thrown at it over time but in the end you still suffer the after effects of wrong decisions and unfortunate circumstances.

Strength isn’t as much the physical ability of a person  as it is the mental and/or spiritual fortitude they possess.  Knowing versus actual understanding is two different things as well. But even having understanding is useless if it is not brought to life through application and/or action.  Many of profound ideas and thought have been laid to waste by the lack of someone bringing them to life through action.

So the old adage of putting your money where your mouth is comes to mind as well as practice as you preach.  I say this to myself often now as I grow older, I realize that even though I have greatest of intentions that without putting them into action or living by them they are but pretty thoughts and words.  So I say to you all if you believe in something, have grand and wondrous ideas do not allow them to be laid to waste by inaction.  Don’t let them be nothing more than good intentions that never become a part of reality.

 

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 1/25/2015


HPIM0063The amount of time we all have in a lifetime in microscopic compared to how long the universe has existed. Life is so precious because we have so little time to experience it. With this in mind we should be good to one another, be compassionate and forgiving. We all are only human after all, we all make mistakes, poor choices and get lost on our way through life.  Find what makes you happy and go obtain it and do it with a good heart. Think hard and examine what is important in your life, some things you may see as important may not be and some things you may see as worthless may be the most important to you in the end.

Not one individual is greater or more important than another, that illusion  has caused injustice and an imbalance in our world. We all are equal in the stream of time and on the path of life, we all must face the fate of being physically mortal.  Age, disease and sickness cares little about social or financial statuses, we all are victims of such. So we should cherish one another and be respectful to each other. We need to put aside the foolish beliefs that one human is greater or lesser than another.

This world is in need of great change, a great change of the mindset of both those in power and those whom are not. But change will not come without it having a place to take root. Change always must start within yourself and then be spread outward, Plant a seed of positive change within yourself and be a Johnny Appleseed of a better world and a brighter future.

To end todays Random Thoughts I leave you with a Quote from a song by the late Michael Jackson

If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change ~ Michael Jackson “Man in the Mirror”

Random Thoughts 1/13/2015


p10109Every word you say, thought you think and action you take creates the path you shall walk in life. Not only do they set your path in life they also influence and affect others as well.  Such things as gossip, lies and words of negativity can lead to the  degradation of the wielder and well as the person they are aimed at. Negative thoughts and words are double-edged swords, they harm not only the target but also the one who wields them.  This is why lies, gossip and negative and degrading words and/or thought are not something one would want to embrace and/or use. Words of positivity, encouragement and words of truth are also a double edge swords, but with these one will find strength and self-respect. Though the truth can cause harm through the revelation of dark secrets and so on, but it also in the end brings healing and new beginnings as well.  There is always the saying that goes if you have nothing good or positive to say then say nothing at all. In the end it is always hard to always be encouraging and positive in a world so full of hate, fear and pain. But the more of us whom chose the higher road of being a positive force in this world the less power hate, fear and negativity will have.  Being we are all human and that we are all basically the same there is little reason why we couldn’t come to accept one another and become a positive and thriving species. In the end it’s all up to ourselves to choose how we live this life and which path we walk on during this journey of life. How we treat others and ourselves is all that will be remembered about us when our journey ends.

Just some Random Thought for you all to ponder. Be they right or wrong they are here for all to see.

Raymond Barbier.

Random Thoughts 1/4/2015


tpl_7_pplForgiveness is important in living a happy life, most of the time forgiving someone else isn’t the problem. The forgiving of your own mistakes is the biggest problem. Most people are harder on their selves than they are on others, this leads to the loss of self-confidence and self-love. we all need to learn to embrace who we are as is and instead of putting so much emphasis on being the perfect person we should put more emphasis on improving and accepting the person we are. No person is perfect, we all have flaws , short comings and make poor choices.

Focus on your good qualities and make them shine while learning to control and curb the qualities that are not so good. Eventually you may rid yourself of the lesser qualities or at least keep them in check to where they do not cause any harm. Either way by focusing on the good qualities and bringing them to the forefront will at least help you grow emotionally, mentally and even spiritually.

 

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 12/28/2014


IMG_1078fbIn life we walk around looking for happiness, harmony and acceptance. We seek these things in the eyes, hearts and arms of others. The truth is even though others can enhance your happiness they can not create it. Happiness is something that you must create and claim on your own. If you go through life waiting for a hero or heroine to come and save the day then you are bound to be repeatedly disappointed unless of course you realize that hero or heroine is you.

Stop looking for an external source to your happiness and start building a better you within your own mind and heart. First one must learn to love and accept themselves before they can truly learn to love and accept others. In the same thought one may even say you must learn to love yourself before you can fully learn how to appreciate and accept the love of others. All change starts within as so does all happiness, without an inner sense of love, happiness and a sense of ones true self it is difficult to be happy.

Of course some say you can have a selfish love of sorts, but love in nature isnt selfish. So we would say that what they refer to selfish love is some form of  greed or lust  than a form of love.. Within you is the potential of such great love and compassion.

 

Love is something we give and if we are fortunate we will receive in return
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts:12-14-2014


rayrayd_edited-1When we are young we rarely think of death, we lack the fear of death and the we don’t understand the fact life is fleeting and temporary.  That innocence we had as children made life so wonderful and free, unfortunately as we grow older we experience the loss of friends, family and others around us. Slowly the reality of our mortality sinks in and bit by bit our innocence disappears. Instead of owning both our life and our eventual end we tend to slowly give in to fear. That fear strips us of our happiness and steals the time we are supposed to enjoy living.

Life is not supposed to be all about fearing its end, its supposed to be about living in the moment and enjoying the precious time we have with those whom we love and enjoy being with. Being our life is so short , we should try to be loving, caring and compassionate beings and learn to love and forgive one another unconditionally.

Unfortunately there is always great injustice in this world as well as inequality. Though a lot of that is beyond our control , but a good part of it is within our own hands to change. If each one of us lived our lives respecting one another and embracing one another as unique individuals and equals then a good part of what ails society would be diminished.  There will always be problems to face in this world be it on the street or in the high offices of government. This will not change until the heart of humanity changes within its self.

To end todays Random Thoughts I will leave you with a quote from a popular song that rings true in my heart at least.

He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother- The Hollies  (1969)

Random Thoughts on 10/22/2014


003We face so many trials in life and many pitfalls fill our path in life. The modern world is good at distracting us, it keeps our minds so full of random information  and it fills  our eyes with intense stimuli. All this to keep us from being focused on the real issues before us and to keep us too busy to notice what is really going on around us.  Seems we rather look at the pretty lights sometimes than to see the problems right in front of us. Sometimes we ignore the problems in hopes that they will go away or fix themselves. Well unfortunately they don’t fix themselves or go away they either turn into different problems or they remain a problem.

We must face our problems be they personal, community or global in nature. We need to focus more on life than on the distractions this world throws at us.  All life has value, we all are unique and important and we all play a part in this world if we want to accept it or not. No ones voice is less important nor is anyone’s voice more important than another’s. We all have emotions, thought and are a part of the tapestry that is life. The illusion of superiority or inferiority are but stumbling blocks on  our path to spiritual growth.

Between distractions of the modern world, fear and our illusive belief  in that individuals have different levels of worth in life, we have been blinded to the truth. We fall prey to being judgmental and accepting the judgments of our peers. We do not need to judge one another, we are here to have fellowship, companionship and aid one another through life.  We all have shortcomings and we all also have good points as well as blessings. No one is different in that respect, we all face life and its roller coaster of change and unexpected events.

Such old adages as Know thyself and to one’s self be true are concepts that still ring true in the modern world. I say be yourself and love who you are, love others without judgment and be true to yourself and to others. Honesty and compassion are both good qualities found in humanity and are cornerstones to a better society.

Well enough of my totally random thoughts for today, God bless and may you find happiness within who and what you are.

Ray Barbier