Random Thoughts 5/10/2015


016One voice, one person can make a difference and create change in our world. Look to the past and you will see it starts with one voice, one person crying out for change. From great philosophers such as Socrates and Aristotle. Prophets from the bible, Koran and religious figures such as Buddha. One person can change the course of our future if they are willing to come forward and speak their heart and minds. The hard part is getting others to listen or to open their hearts and minds to a newer and possibly better way. Opposition will be out there, too many fear change and some just like things as they are because they are in good positions in their life.  Be very persistent and hold fast to your ideals and beliefs, don’t let those who oppose your way of believing sway you from your course.

Like all things in our world, if you want something you must work hard, think quickly and use wisdom to guide your path in order to be successful or to gain the change you seek. Kind of like my blogging, I have many who either ignore my posts or dislike them. Some criticize , others just make comments that oppose my views. They are all welcomed, for I don’t fear criticisms nor comments etc.  They teach me where I possible went wrong in trying to communicate through the posts and sometimes it enlightens me to flaws in my beliefs and thoughts.

My voice may not be one to make any change in this world beyond my own little bubble of reality, but I enjoy writing and thinking so I will continue on. At least I hope my posts inspire some to think or to write their own blogs and thoughts.

Blessings and Peace

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015


011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

It is your Story, your life that you live.


010It is your Story, your life that you live. No one can take that away from you. You own you story and your life, no person can live your life or story.  How you live you life and how your story goes is solely up to you. The limitations you set for yourself as well as the boundaries define the outline of your story.  You are unique and one of a kind, no other human is exactly like you. Each one of us are special and not one is greater or lesser. The illusion of superiority or inferiority is the result of our choice to believe in such things. There are those whom can do one or more things better than another, but this is true in all of us. We all have our gifts, talents and natural abilities. The diversity of such things within our species gives us a great advantage in surviving this harsh world. Along with our ability to rely on each others strengths and being there for each other when it comes to our weaknesses and short comings.

The Division created in our society over such things as wealth, popularity, competition and egotism is only weakening us as a species in whole. We need to look past such things and learn such things as compassion, co-operation and acceptance of one another as is. Greed, envy and the misfortune reality of inequality in our modern world are stumbling blocks if not a huge road block in the way of our species advancement and survival.

And still our world is plagued with the age-old problems such as racism, sexism, nationalism and elitism. These of course stem from the emotion of fear. Fear is one of the biggest stumbling blocks humanity has. Fear is one of the strongest emotions we have and one of the hardest to overcome and/or repress. Anger is another of the emotions we as humans have a lot of trouble with. Most people have a hard time letting anger go and forgiving the trespasses of others. Anger and fear both can consume ones mind to the point where rational thinking is no longer possible.

We all are a part of the world we live in, regardless of the differences we have between each other as humans. Celebrate your unique and individuality, but remember we are all connected through the common thread of our species. The survival, happiness and wellbeing of each other should have as much importance as that of our own.  Humanity only survived this long due to our ability to work together.

Only if we can overcome our weaknesses such as greed, selfishness and fear will we be able to continue surviving as a species. We need to put  behind us such things as bigotry, elitism, separatism  and social classes . Learn to be compassionate, community minded and most of all understanding of each others shortcomings . The choice of how you interact and react with other people is your own and how you do so determines how they perceive you and  how they will interact with you as well.

 

Well that’s some collected random thoughts from a few weeks.

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 3-16-2015


me2_edited-1 Be yourself, Worry not about the opinions of others. Become a person whom you would love and respect and learn to love who you are faults and all.  Listen to advice but be wise and avoid following someone else’s ideals blindly. Forge your own path in life and be what you are destined to be.

You have been given a mind to reason out right from wrong, You have been given a heart to love and forgive. You have been given a lifetime to shine and be all you can be. You are the navigator of your own life path. Use all the gifts you have been given to make the wiser choices along the way.

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 3-13-2015


003Kindness, a quality rarely found in our society. Though there are the few kindhearted and compassionate few in each community.  Unfortunately kindness is not something most parents focus on teaching their child. Kindness is a considered either a weakness or luxury in some people’s minds. Focus on being successful socially and eventual financially is the norm.  I am not saying those things are not important, I am stressing that kindness and respect should share in  importance when it comes to teaching our children. Strength is not measured by ones cruelty , rudeness or lack of kindness. True strength is tempered with mercy, kindness and compassion.

Through a kind heart a community can learn to come together and take on the challenges that communities face. Through kindness and compassion a community can find the unity required to reduce such things as hunger, poverty and homelessness. Generosity also plays a big part in it all as well.

Kindness, Mercy, compassion and forgiveness mean far less when they are reserved only for those whom you know or love. They really show their worth and power when used on strangers and even those you consider as your  enemies.

Some Random Thoughts for you to think on.

Blessings to you all
Ray Barbier

Random thoughts 2-14-2015


I always wonder why that people tend to be so negative in nature when life itself is something of wonder and of beauty. I understand how life tends to throw curve balls at us and how external influences can become roadblocks and pitfalls on our journey through life. Bad and unfortunate events occur, there is little we can do about those kind of things. All we can do is choose to either be someone who reacts to such things or be a person who has learned to act to minimize the negative effects of such. Being reactionary is to let instinct take control and not allow our reasoning skills to figure out the most beneficial action to take in response to the situation.

 

Being a reactionary type person is basically being someone who leaves most of his or her decisions in life up to chance. Sometimes we only have that choice, but most of the time we do have the choice and ability to reason out a better way to respond to circumstances than just instinctually. Putting it in a nutshell so to speak is to say it is better to think things through than just letting our instincts control our actions and reactions. Step back and look at the whole situation and all the circumstances surrounding it before taking any kind of action. For it is wise to think before you act instead of acting hastily without any thought of both the circumstances and consequences that one could face.

 

We always must remember that not only our actions can cause us to face consequences but also the words we speak. Responsibility of both our words and actions fall solely on ourselves, the consequences of both are our responsibility as well. In the end we shall face the consequences of our choices, actions and words. Be it through karma, judgement by a supreme being or just plain fate we will face our choices in life. So one would think it would be far wiser to be mindful of what actions and words you choose in life

 

A few quotes to ponder on…

 

Think before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another. – Napoleon Hill

 

Think before you act and act on what you believe. – Bo Bennett

 

Before you act, listen. Before you react, think. Before you spend,earn. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try. – Ernest Hemingway

 

 

 

 

Random Thoughts 2-8-2015


DSC_0430One of the biggest enemies of success and happiness is doubting ourselves and having the lack of confidence in our ability to choose.  Walking through life with fear and without self-confidence makes for a very unhappy life. Without self-confidence we become wandering and unfocused, we have no direction in life.

What creates self-doubt and causes our self-confidence to dissipate? There are internal and external forces that play a part in such, most of the time it is either a period of time that we failed more than we could handle or we were told repeatedly by our peers that we were in some way deficient or inferior to others.

More than likely it was a combination of those two along with other experiences in our lives. I myself had to face my peers being degrading and did not accept me for who I was as a teen and child. As teens humans are quite cruel, though I do not think poorly of any of those whom played a part of such. When you’re a teen there is a lot of pressure to fit in, to be cool and it is when we develop our social skills. It is all part of the process of growing up and finding your place in society.

Regardless of where the self doubting began or how it took root within your mind matters less than how to correct such improper and negative thinking.  First off if you have any anger or hold any grudges against anyone who was a part of the problem, you have to forgive them and let them go in order to release yourself from the negative emotions tied to the experience. Those negative emotions will do nothing but block you from moving forward.

I have found many of those whom were mean or those who acted poorly towards me in my youth grew up to become some of the greatest people one could know. Also sometimes those who we thought were being mean really were nice people who were trying to keep from suffering the same fate as we faced. Fear of rejection or the fear of not being accepted is one of the most common fears among youths and some adults as well.

To rebuild ones confidence is not simple nor is it a quick task to complete. If you have friends and family that are supportive, those in your life that frequently give you praise or show gratitude for your efforts you should surround yourself with those kind of people. You should when possible avoid negative people who tend to bring you down emotionally, especially the ones that try to belittle you. In time once you rebuilt your confidence it wont matter much what others say be it complimentary or demeaning.

In life one must learn that to lean on others is not a sign of weakness but that it is a sign of wisdom. Humanity would have been extinct a long time ago if we didn’t learn to lean on one another and to combine our strengths as a group. Rebuilding confidence is different for each one of us, what works for one may not always work for another. But to seek help is wise and to find your own path is the best way.

I wish you well on your Journey Through Life and I leave you with a Quote from John Donne’s Meditation XVII:

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend’s or of thine own were: any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.

~John Donne: Meditation XVII

Random thoughts 2/1/2015


014_edited-2Facing the truth when it comes to your own self is one of the hardest things you have to face in life. Accepting that you are not invincible, that in fact you are as vulnerable as everyone else is hard to accept. Though I never thought I was a superman or anything along that lines, I did however believe I was far tougher than I found myself to be.  The human spirit can overcome almost anything that is thrown at it over time but in the end you still suffer the after effects of wrong decisions and unfortunate circumstances.

Strength isn’t as much the physical ability of a person  as it is the mental and/or spiritual fortitude they possess.  Knowing versus actual understanding is two different things as well. But even having understanding is useless if it is not brought to life through application and/or action.  Many of profound ideas and thought have been laid to waste by the lack of someone bringing them to life through action.

So the old adage of putting your money where your mouth is comes to mind as well as practice as you preach.  I say this to myself often now as I grow older, I realize that even though I have greatest of intentions that without putting them into action or living by them they are but pretty thoughts and words.  So I say to you all if you believe in something, have grand and wondrous ideas do not allow them to be laid to waste by inaction.  Don’t let them be nothing more than good intentions that never become a part of reality.

 

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 1/25/2015


HPIM0063The amount of time we all have in a lifetime in microscopic compared to how long the universe has existed. Life is so precious because we have so little time to experience it. With this in mind we should be good to one another, be compassionate and forgiving. We all are only human after all, we all make mistakes, poor choices and get lost on our way through life.  Find what makes you happy and go obtain it and do it with a good heart. Think hard and examine what is important in your life, some things you may see as important may not be and some things you may see as worthless may be the most important to you in the end.

Not one individual is greater or more important than another, that illusion  has caused injustice and an imbalance in our world. We all are equal in the stream of time and on the path of life, we all must face the fate of being physically mortal.  Age, disease and sickness cares little about social or financial statuses, we all are victims of such. So we should cherish one another and be respectful to each other. We need to put aside the foolish beliefs that one human is greater or lesser than another.

This world is in need of great change, a great change of the mindset of both those in power and those whom are not. But change will not come without it having a place to take root. Change always must start within yourself and then be spread outward, Plant a seed of positive change within yourself and be a Johnny Appleseed of a better world and a brighter future.

To end todays Random Thoughts I leave you with a Quote from a song by the late Michael Jackson

If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change ~ Michael Jackson “Man in the Mirror”

Random Thoughts 1/13/2015


p10109Every word you say, thought you think and action you take creates the path you shall walk in life. Not only do they set your path in life they also influence and affect others as well.  Such things as gossip, lies and words of negativity can lead to the  degradation of the wielder and well as the person they are aimed at. Negative thoughts and words are double-edged swords, they harm not only the target but also the one who wields them.  This is why lies, gossip and negative and degrading words and/or thought are not something one would want to embrace and/or use. Words of positivity, encouragement and words of truth are also a double edge swords, but with these one will find strength and self-respect. Though the truth can cause harm through the revelation of dark secrets and so on, but it also in the end brings healing and new beginnings as well.  There is always the saying that goes if you have nothing good or positive to say then say nothing at all. In the end it is always hard to always be encouraging and positive in a world so full of hate, fear and pain. But the more of us whom chose the higher road of being a positive force in this world the less power hate, fear and negativity will have.  Being we are all human and that we are all basically the same there is little reason why we couldn’t come to accept one another and become a positive and thriving species. In the end it’s all up to ourselves to choose how we live this life and which path we walk on during this journey of life. How we treat others and ourselves is all that will be remembered about us when our journey ends.

Just some Random Thought for you all to ponder. Be they right or wrong they are here for all to see.

Raymond Barbier.