Self forgiveness is something that very few of us ever practice, forgiving one’s self seems to be a much harder task than to forgive others. Why does it seem that to forgive some one is much easier than to forgive our own mistakes and transgressions?  For some reason we tend to be much harder on ourselves than we are on other people. We must realize that like everyone else we are not perfect and therefore we will make mistakes and should learn from those mistakes but not allow those mistakes to control our lives.  We can focus on our positive attributes and our achievements instead of on our mistakes and our negative aspects.  Mistakes being a part of the natural learning process that we all go through and they are beneficial in learning what we should not do.  So making mistakes is something that we all must face in this life that we live.

  Guilt which is an aftereffect of making a mistake is suppose to be a short lived emotion to help us remember that we had made that mistake.  Guilt is not supposed to be a lifelong emotion and if it becomes one it changes from a beneficial emotion into a destructive emotion.  Suffering Guilt for a long period of time is devastating to a persons self-esteem and their personal happiness. Accept the mistakes that you have made, then learn from them and try not to repeat them is about all one can do. Everybody makes mistakes and everyone faces guilt from time to time and that my friend is what being human is all about.

Well till next time

Peace R. Barbier

   Anger serves a purpose but is meant to be a temporary state of emotion not a way of life. Anger is designed for the purpose of self preservation and defense , It is a response to a negative force we encounter and usually turns off after the event. Sometimes anger will linger and cause great physical distress which is not its true design. Instead of anger we are supposed to have a memory of the incident and the mistrust or caution mentality. To hold on to anger for too long of time it creates a negative effect on your social and physical well being. To allow any emotion to be in control of you and your daily life is unhealthy. Emotions should be under your control not the other way around. Taming emotions that have gone wild and has gained control of your life is not an easy task. But like any challenge we face in life it is possible with determination and allot of self control. Though meditation, hypnosis and plain common sense one can regain control over their emotions within time. The first step is to realize that your emotions are in control of you and that you need to regain control of them.

  Some people choose to ignore or try and shut off their emotions and this also creates problems for your body and mind. Learn to experience your emotions when they come and then learn to let go of them once they are no longer necessary. Mankind has always had to deal with their emotions and how they can both be beneficial and devastating to the individual who experiences them. Too much emotions is bad just as too little of emotions is also bad. Find a balance between both extremes and learn to be the master of them and all will be well. When a emotion becomes too strong and uncontrollable find a way to express that emotion and to get it out of you. Writing, exercise, and any form of artistic expression usually are good ways to express and release the emotions you are dealing with. There are many other ways to deal with the overbearing emotions one can experience and each person needs to find the best way for them.

Depression is one of the most devastating emotions one must face and when facing it I would suggest not doing it alone, Talk to your family and friends about your sadness and ask them for help and if it is a very severe case do not feel ashamed to go ask for help from your physician or a therapist. Being depressed may be natural from time to time but it is not normal to be depressed all of the time.

Well enough rambling for today.

Peace.

R. Barbier

  There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, parent, child or lover and holding on to that belief only keeps someone from enjoying life and those who are in it. If we would learn to accept the fact the person we love and care about is human and will have many flaws we might be happier in our relationships. We can not expect anyone to adhere to the standards of perfection we have in our mind. Each person has both great qualities and potential as well as a bad side to their personality. We all suffer from a bad side and there is not one person here on earth who is perfect. We all should show respect to others and have self respect as well. Respect for each other is a very important part of any relationship, without respect a relationship will fall apart eventually.

Respect yourself and all others and love without condition along with understanding. Try to see things through the eyes of others and realize that sometimes there is more there than meets the eye. Never expect perfection from yourself or others. This is not to say you cant have high standards for yourself and others but be realistic in the standards you set. If you set the bar too high then you or they will never reach the goal or standard. Also remember relationships are a partnership so you must work together to make the relationship work and to improve its quality.

“Love yourself and others for who and what they are”

R. Barbier

   What if 2010 was the end of mankind’s time on earth? What if it becomes the extinction of all life on earth and everything we have achieved is washed away in the blink of an eye? It would be a shame to see all the accomplishments of man to be lost and forgotten. Man as a species has had many wonderful achievements and have done both some very remarkable acts as well as some that were quite horrifying. We have cured and managed many diseases , sent men to the moon along with created the atom bomb.

Though mankind has just begun learning the lessons of life we are coming closer to the end of our time here on earth. The solar cycles of the sun and the natural cycles of the earth compounded with the greenhouse gases mankind has contributed through industry and deforestation the planet we live on is growing hotter and more hostile. If we were able to determine an exact date for the end of mankind or the end of an inhabitable earth, would that change or influence mankind? Would we change our way of life to avoid or to extend our time here on earth?

Eventually earth will become inhabitable for all life, volcanic activity and the shifting of the earths plates will influence the earths weather and atmosphere to the point that mass extinction will take place. Even if we are lucky enough to escape or survive such changes there is both the threat of a mass solar event and  the near earth objects that will one day collide with earth and kill off the majority of life. So what is mankind to do to survive beyond the disasters awaiting us in our future? The only possibility for the survival of mankind is to make our first and foremost priority the colonization of space.

Unfortunately world governments see national security and military dominance more important than the wellbeing and survival of the human race. Seems to me that most government officials are too disconnected from the people they are meant to serve. This is how it has been since the creation of countries and nations. The Ruling class has always enjoyed life at the expense of the working class and it probably will remain this way till the end of time. Who knows, we may have thousands of years left before something happens that kills of the human race. We might even become advanced enough to prevent the  destruction of earth and to colonize the planets in deep space. One can always dream and have hope that mankind will find a way to survive.

Enough Ranting for now
Peace. R. Barbier