Random Thoughts–11/30/2014

IMG_1078Sometimes I wonder when we  as a society went from being content with the wonderful things we have been blessed with to being envious of what others may have better than us. We have become a society driven by  personal possessions and social status and that is not a positive thing. When we begin to value inanimate objects above the wellbeing and lives of other people we have lost the precious attributes that make us human.

No amount of money,gold or precious stones are worth more than the life of a human being. No difference of opinion, differences in religious beliefs or political party should be more important than the life of any human. Sure we need to hash out those differences or learn to accept that not every person will believe or think the same. We should have respect for another persons right to be an individual and their right to believe and think as they desire.

We need to return to a path of respect, compassion and of tolerance. Humanity has enough challenges to face in the present and future. We should be civilized and mature enough to see beyond such things as racism, elitism and intolerance.  Fear and hate has too much power in our modern world and it shouldn’t.  It is shameful that as old as the human race is that we still fall prey to emotions that are primitive.  Still amazing how quick we give in to our negative emotions and how hard it seems for us to embrace the more positive ones such as compassion, love and empathy.

I still try to be a happy, caring and friendly guy.

IMG_1371-editedIt seems as I get older I allow more things to bother me and let things stress me out more than when I was young anyway. When I was young I was one of those easy-going not so popular kids that was just there. I cared more about respect and fairness than I did popularity or even my safety on some occasions.  I was just one of those kids you barely remember or don’t even recall.

It is ok many don’t remember me or just don’t care to, there are a select few whom were my real friends and they remember me well as I do them. It isn’t about popularity or what opinions others have of me, it is more about being true to who I am and doing what I believe is in the good and right. To live by my own convictions, to accept others and myself  as we are along with all our wonderful qualities along with all of our shortcomings.

Though I am a little less happy-go-lucky, I still try to be a happy, caring and friendly guy. Still I am not that memorable but I am who I chose to be and that is all I can ask for. Be true to yourself, be true to what you believe and carry a compassion heart my friends. Be who you truly want to be for life is short and a one time ride.

Ray Barbier

Focus on what we should be doing

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Compassion, Kindness and empathy all derivatives of love. Why should we express such emotions within our daily lives? I have had a few friends say “why should I help someone else, no one ever helped me”, well probably someone has but they chose to forget, but most importantly it’s that attitude that caused them to have to suffer life without help. It is giving in to such ideals that has diminished the amount of people who are compassionate and that are willing to reach out to help others. We must get over what others are or are not doing and focus on what we should be doing in our lives.

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It is hard to let go of pain and the feeling of being alone in life, but that said one must think about others who feel alone and helpless as well. Reach out your hand to help another lonely or lost soul and you may find it is a mutually beneficial act. By being there for the other person you take away the feeling of being alone from them as well as for yourself. If we are alone it’s either because we chose to be such or that another person chose not to reach out. So reach out to others and accept the hands reached out to help you.

Once we learn to put aside our fear and pride we will be able to be a more productive and benevolent society. The first step is having the courage to open yourself up  to  being helped and to helping others.


Ray Barbier.