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Random Thoughts 4/20/2022


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People wonder why there is so much low self-esteem in the world, if you take a good look at television shows, commercials, social media, movies, and even the news on cable news stations you just may see some of the reasons for low self-esteem, but then there is also how one’s family treats them, their peers and the educational system.

When you are constantly bombarded with images of thin, fit, and muscular actors, advertisements aimed to push miracle vitamins and supplements to fix all your shortcomings, it is very hard to hold on to a good self-image and even harder to build it up. Constantly being told that having a perfect body weight, toned muscles, the right clothes, and accessories makes one beautiful and successful is making it hard for most people to maintain healthy self-esteem.

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Unfortunately, fashion, the newest electronics, and possessions play a big part in teenage self-image, which makes it hard for those who don’t have the money to compete with their peers. Combining that with parents that have to work 2 jobs or inconvenient hours to maintain the quality of life they have only makes it harder on teenagers and kids.

The ones that seem to suffer the worst during school years are those that don’t quite fit the norm, the overweight, the below-average to average looking, and the sensitive passive individuals. Bullying from those who think they are cool, tougher, and better than others does not help the situation at all. The consequences of bullying are usually mild and it seems it’s hard to catch kids bullying or maybe some just overlook it.

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Parents and siblings also play a large part in the development of a child’s self-esteem, they can be either a positive or negative force when it comes to a child’s self-image. Siblings usually are competing for the parent’s attention, love and favor so they tend to be very mean to one another. Parents on the other hand usually are trying to do what’s best for the child but don’t realize what works for one child does not always work for the other. Each child is a unique individual, they have different needs and need help in different ways. Some parents, unfortunately, don’t know how to deal with their children at all so they try to treat them as if they are adults way before the child or teen is emotionally and mentally ready to do so. This usually results in conflict and the child/teen becomes rebellious and has a poor self-image.

If the low self-esteem is not addressed and corrected during the child/teen years then it is carried into the adult years. That makes it very hard for the Adult to achieve a healthy relationship with a significant other and even harder for them to become successful in the work world.

Raising kids is not an easy task, being a parent means you have to be a caregiver, advisor, instructor, friend, leader, cook, counselor, and of course an ATM for the children lol. Helping a child navigate the battlefields of youth and preparing them for the many challenges they will have to face in the future is not an easy thing to accomplish. All you can do is give it your best shot and always be there for them when they need you.

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I myself have had self-esteem issues throughout my life, I have been battling low self-esteem for many decades. I could go down a list of all the things that caused my low self-esteem but what is the use of that now that it now falls squarely on me to repair the damage and improve myself. Plus the first step in moving on and building up your self-esteem/self-image is to forgive those who helped in destroying it and letting go of your own contributions to the whole mess as well.

Just know this, there is no one better than you, but then there is no one lesser than you. We all are unique, we all have our own gifts to embrace and shortcomings that we need to deal with. There is no one on this planet that does not have some emotional or psychological baggage to deal with. How much money you have, and how many toys you have has nothing to do with who you are or how good you are. What defines you is how you live life, and how you treat others and yourself.

Being successful sure feels good, being financially well off does make life easier in many ways, but money, possessions, and success are fleeting, they can be gone in an instant. Family and friends to me are far more important along with how I treat others, and how I live my life. Those things will be with me throughout my life.

Well, I wish you happiness, remember it does not matter what others think or say about you, it is what you know about yourself that matters the most.

Random Thoughts 4-17-2022


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During the last few years, it has really come to my attention that humanity tends to cling to hatred, fear, and selfishness far more than it should. The Ideal is that being compassionate, caring, showing love, and being nice in general are signs of weakness that are slowly destroying our societies. Too many hold on to the belief, that in order to be strong you must be callus, cold, and show no mercy.

I ask you this question, which takes more courage, which takes more effort and strength to achieve and maintain? Being a person who lets his fears, anger, and lack of trust guide his decision, being callous and uncaring so that you can achieve a goal, or the person who conquers his fear and puts aside all his anger and distrust in order to achieve his goal?

To me it seems far easier to give in to anger and fear, takes less courage and effort to follow the path of war and destruction. Takes a very strong individual to put themselves out there and do the right thing, to do the things that benefit others more than themselves. Regardless of which way you do things, you will have critics and naysayers, but I would rather be disliked for doing good and being kind than for being a warmonger or a bringer of hate and distrust.

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There is some hope for Humanity through all this pandemic and war business going on nowadays, look at those who have opened their hearts and homes to refugees, the people going out of their way to help protect others from the pandemic, and aid in keeping those infected alive. We have seen the worse of humanity and the best of humanity through the last few years and I really hope in the end, the best of humanity will outweigh the worse and become the light to guide the way for future generations to follow.

Try to remember, that we all are brothers and sisters on this earth regardless of our skin color, or religious or political beliefs. We all desire a peaceful and happy world for our children and the future children to come. Be compassionate, caring, and live in harmony, if not for yourself, then for your children and the future.

That said, May peace come soon to the Ukraine conflict, may the pandemic pass for us all, and Happy Easter, Passover, and Ramadan to you all. Happiness and peace to all of my Brothers and Sisters across the world.

Random Thoughts 2-2-2017


IMG_1371-editedSitting here reflecting on my life and all the trials I have been through on my journey through life, I have noticed that many times in my life I was so blessed but I was blind to the treasures that was bestowed upon me . It is so easy only to see the curses in your life and overlook all the blessings that surround you. It seems that as humans we tend to focus on the tragedy of life more so than the wonder of it. 

We get caught up in the grass is always greener and why does our next door neighbor seem to have it better than we do mentality. Funny thing is our neighbor may be looking at our grass or our life and thinking the exact same thing.  We need to open our eyes and be appreciative of the wondrous gifts we have been given in our lives, we need to stop looking for something more or what we think may be better. We should mow our own grass and pull the weeds instead of trying to buy or steal the grass of our neighbors.

Yeah it all boils down to the old and worn out saying that life is what you make it. That saying is very accurate, though it forgets to mention it’s a  process that you must be vigilant at.  Making life how you want it is just like tending to a garden, you have to weed the garden and water it quite often to keep it beautiful and weed free.

All aspects of life require work to make it good and accepting that what you have is a blessing in progress and not a curse is a key to making a happier life. 

 

Be good to one another and be accepting of yourself and the life you have been blessed with

Raymond Barbier

Random thought 7/30/15


When I Look at the smile on my niece’s face it reminds me of a time when I believe in humanity. It brings back the hope and wonder I once felt as child. It also makes me think about the world we are living in today and if as a whole we all don’t change course the world she will inherit will be one full of turmoil, fear and hate.

Hope is still in my heart that one day humanity will learn to get along with itself and all other living beings, creatures alike. Maybe one day we will learn to look beyond the illusion of separation and the misconception that one person can be above or below another. We all come into this world the same way and we all have only one way out. So between the miracle of birth and the certainty of death we should find the strength and courage to put aside all our differences to make a better world for the children of today to inherit as well as the future generations yet to come.

Truthfully most of the so-called differences between each of us is superficial or non-existent. We all desire happiness and peace within our lifetime. We all want a better world for the children and a happier existence for both ourselves and those around us. Only when we put aside such things as greed, fear and hate will we as a species be able to survive and flourish.

When I look at the smile on my niece’s face I see the hope of humanity, in the eyes of every child I see humanity’s salvation. The Children are the key to our future and we are the ones who decide what direction this world will be heading when those children inherit it from us.

Random Thoughts–7/3/2015


tmeReset to Zero, Put behind you the memories that do you more harm than good. Reset the counter and start over, give yourself another chance like you know you should. Let go of the past, worry little of the future because the present is where you belong. Put away your anger, fear and sadness and sing out your life song. Don’t allow others to control your mood and become the navigator of your own life. Learn its far better to choose your path than to leave yourself in an ocean of strife.

The past is to learn from, the future is there to inspire you to change and grow. The present is where you live, it is where you are at all times of the day. We can not travel backwards and we surely can not jump ahead. We must live by the rules of time, we must be creatures of the here and now.  Forgiveness is but a way of releasing the hurt and pain that we accumulated in the past. Understanding is something we use to avoid hurt and pain in the present. Love is something that exists in all time and space. Love is the fuel for the heart and soul. Without love we would be less than alive, we would have little purpose to continue forward in time.

Each day you live is the day to change and grow. You are unique and special, for everyone is not the same.  Be who you are and be true to yourself as well. For being someone you are not is silly and unproductive. Follow your own heart and mind and let others walk their own path as well.

Worry not if a person likes you or not, for it is what you think about yourself that matters most. Just be the best you that you can be and show mercy, compassion and understanding to others. Be an example of what you see as a good person. Life is way too short to allow others to influence you in a negative way. So steer clear of negative people if you can not limit their influence they have on you. For Negativity don’t only affect your mind, it also affects your overall physical health as well.

Be Positive, thoughtful and aim at being a good example for others to follow. Leave a legacy of kindness, compassion, peace and love for the younger generation to learn by. It is your life, your choice and the time is now.

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015


011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015


011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015


011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random thoughts before coffee 5/7/2015


009They all have forgotten we are still in a struggle to survive. the self preservationists and collective now is to be revived. Our separation due to desperation only destroys the structure we all are part of and rely on.  No man or woman is an island upon them selves, we function better as a family than if we are solo. Differences of opinion and points of view can change if not just add flavor to the collection of the group mindset.

Divided we shall fall but unified we shall stand, choose which way you wish to walk through this short life my friend. You have the choice to listen to the mass hysteria and mob mentality or the inner voice within us all. It is solely your decision and only you can make the call.  Judge me as you see fit, for you will do so regardless of what  say or do. for you are who you are till you choose to change yourself. Enemy or foe , the way you perceive me and others is up to you. Till you see I am not the enemy I will wait patiently with hand extended in friendship and in peace.

I don’t claim to know all the answers for I am but one small cog in the machine works of what we call life. Alone I am insignificant, but as a part of the whole I am intricate and necessary for some small reason unknown to me.  I see now we all are pieces of something larger than ourselves, even if we don’t acknowledge that fact or not we play a part in it all. Each part is equal to another, though some may be glorified more than others. Every part played has to be in order for the end product to manifest.

 

Ok, very random and odd thoughts that came out of my muddled brain early in the morning. Enjoy

Ray Barbier

Random thoughts before coffee 5/7/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random thoughts before coffee 5/7/2015


009They all have forgotten we are still in a struggle to survive. the self preservationists and collective now is to be revived. Our separation due to desperation only destroys the structure we all are part of and rely on.  No man or woman is an island upon them selves, we function better as a family than if we are solo. Differences of opinion and points of view can change if not just add flavor to the collection of the group mindset.

Divided we shall fall but unified we shall stand, choose which way you wish to walk through this short life my friend. You have the choice to listen to the mass hysteria and mob mentality or the inner voice within us all. It is solely your decision and only you can make the call.  Judge me as you see fit, for you will do so regardless of what  say or do. for you are who you are till you choose to change yourself. Enemy or foe , the way you perceive me and others is up to you. Till you see I am not the enemy I will wait patiently with hand extended in friendship and in peace.

I don’t claim to know all the answers for I am but one small cog in the machine works of what we call life. Alone I am insignificant, but as a part of the whole I am intricate and necessary for some small reason unknown to me.  I see now we all are pieces of something larger than ourselves, even if we don’t acknowledge that fact or not we play a part in it all. Each part is equal to another, though some may be glorified more than others. Every part played has to be in order for the end product to manifest.

 

Ok, very random and odd thoughts that came out of my muddled brain early in the morning. Enjoy

Ray Barbier

Random thoughts before coffee 5/7/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure