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Random Thoughts 2/14/2017


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  On Valentines day we are reminded about how fortunate we are to have someone in this world we love and hopefully loves us back.  The traditional buying candy, flowers and gifts for each other or just a greeting card is wonderful as long as we remember to express our feelings through words and actions as well.  Today is a good day to forgive your significant other for their mistakes and shortcomings as well as forgive ourselves for our own.

Most people do not realize how rare and wonderful it is to have someone to take this journey of life beside us, to walk alone is not a easy task in life and to walk beside another though challenging is far more wonderful than going it solo.  Remember your Love one is also your friend and as such you need to build a great relationship full of understanding and compassion between you two. Work together not against each other and seek out a harmonious partnership if it possible.

Also on Valentines day you need to Tell those friends that are there for you through life how much you appreciate them as well. They play an important part in your life and sometimes fill the gaps in your life that your special someone may not be able to do all the time. Someone to lean on, to talk to and just be yourself with. 

Blessings and Love be yours

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts–2/6/2017


018  Acceptance, something most of us crave and need to be a functional and somewhat happy individual. A lot of the time we are accepted by our peers but we have a hard time accepting ourselves.  Our brain takes what we think about ourselves and uses it to filter the world around us, so even if someone is loved, appreciated and accepted they may feel the total opposite of that if they have a poor self image and can not accept themselves for who and what they are.

If most people would just spend 1/4 of the time they do on trying to be accepted by others on improving their self image and in accepting themselves then they would be much happier in their lives.  Learning to accept yourself with all your faults and bad habits is not a walk in the park, but it is not a non obtainable goal. The first thing is learning to forgive yourself for the things you did that you consider wrong or mistakes. The baggage of past actions only builds guilt, which guilt has a purpose but it is not meant to be lifelong thing.  Forgive yourself, your only human and you will make mistakes along the way. Learn from them, forgive yourself and move on. Let go of your past, don’t live in the past for it only steals away today. If you have things you do still that bother you then work hard on changing them, but until you change them learn to accept that side of yourself and forgive yourself for not being perfect.

Focus on serving others, to do good for others is a great way to improve your self image and worth. It also teaches you to consider others above yourself at times. Find activities that make you feel better about yourself and get out and socialize, being an island unto yourself is not the best way to live, it only opens you up to being lonely and disconnected from the world we live in.  Just remember no matter what you have done in your life, that you deserve to be happy and live life to its fullest.  Even if it was something horrible, that was then and this is now, learn to be a better person and live a happy and productive life like we all should live.

 

Blessings and happiness to you all

Raymond Barbier

Random Thoughts 11-10-2016


Life in the early years seems to be endless and full of wonder, not much keeps you down and all seems wonderful. As you grow you face the ups and downs of youth such as the judgement by your peers. Years you spend trying to be like the rest, trying to fit in and be accepted. In  the end you will find it was all a waste of time, trying to be someone other than you are is a big waste of time.

You are who you are, and for a good reason. You were meant to be yourself not someone else. Instead of putting all that energy into fitting in and being like others , you should put all of that energy into being the best version of you that you can be and let them try to fit in with you. We all are unique individuals, we need to be ourselves and stop being followers of social norms and be more of a unique collection of individuals.

Be true to who you are and be true to your uniqueness.

Raymond Barbier

Random Thoughts 10-25-2016


006-2.jpgIn our world there is two kind of strengths within a human, the physical and the mental. The physical has always been celebrated in ancient as well as modern society. Might make right mentality has existed since the dawn of man, though it had its purpose in ancient times since we had to battle not only each other for land and the resources therein we also had to battle the forces of nature and the predators that roamed the lands. Might is not always right, matter of fact it usually it is wrong regardless that it seems to still rule our  world.

Humanity still seems to choose the path of war, hate and fear over the path of peace and mutual co-operation. We rather fight over the remaining resources on our wonderful planet called earth than to share them and work together to find solutions to our current problems. Think what the world could achieve if the Governments would dedicate just half the resources they dedicate to their military to feeding the hungry, healing the sick and finding alternative energy sources that are renewable and less toxic to our home here on earth.

Think what the would happen if people across the world could achieve if they invested all their energy into improving the community and the lives of one another. Too much energy is wasted on fear, mistrust and holding on to hatreds from the past. Can not move forward until you resolve and let go of the past. The day we finally see we are more alike than different and that we all are one species regardless of the differences between us is the day humanity will become the species we are destined to be.

Political Correctness is not the answer that is just refraining from saying what we truly think and feel. The only answer is to change who we are inside, to grow beyond our fears, hatred and distrust of one another. Repressing feelings does not change them, usually it just makes things worse and multiplies their strength. We need to face those feelings and learn to understand them as well as their root. Then overcome them by removing the root cause. Yes easier said than done but very possible, that is one of the wonderful things about humans, we can always change and grow.

In the end it don’t matter who was right or wrong, its more about what is the right thing to do. It does not matter that we think differently, that we look different or we have different beliefs. What matters is every one of us is just as important as the next, we all play a part in this tapestry of life. Think of humanity as one large machine, one that self replicates and changes the landscape of its home. A machine should be designed to work together for a common purpose or goal. At this point in time the machine or the species of humanity is working more against itself than together, though I believe the majority of us desire peace, happiness and the ability to coexist harmoniously. Those in power don’t seem to understand or they are blind to the fact they are walking the path of extinction.

It is time for humanity to wake up, for the those in charge to grow up and focus on the well-being of all humanity not just their own nations or their agendas. Stop the sabre rattling and sit down with each other to find a mutually beneficial path for all the countries and people of the world. Not a one world government but a world full of governments that focus on the wellbeing of all of humanity.  Put away our fears, misunderstandings and distrust of one another. Forgive and forget the mistakes that each side has made and focus on a future where we can avoid repeating the same mistakes.

Do this for yourself, your families and the generations to come, I believe we all want the world to be a better place for our children and the children to come. The survival of the human race hangs in the balance and its up to all of us to make sure we walk the path that will be the best for all of mankind.

Just Some Random Thoughts on a Tuesday Afternoon.

God Bless and Peace
Raymond Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2016


Sometimes we seem to be our own worst enemy, we tend to judge ourselves by impossible standards and with a harsher eye. We allow the opinions of others to influence our self-image, which if its positive is a good thing but unfortunately people are quicker to point out the flaws and mistakes in others than the good points. WE ned to learn to accept our own imperfections as a part of who we are now, if we don’t like them then we can change them as time goes by. But no reason to be down on yourself for being human and being imperfect, it’s all a part of life and growing as a person.

By understanding this about ourselves we also to accept the imperfections etc. in others as well. This is good for it will foster a friendlier atmosphere be it at home, work and when we are out having fun. Life is way too short to be a perfectionist and one who can’t be forgiving of themselves or others.

Ray Barbier

Mind Exposure 03-01-16


Sometimes we get so caught up in our own emotions, thoughts and ego that we overlook the fact that the other person in front of us has feelings of their own. We allow our own pain and frustration cloud our vision of what is really going on. We all suffer from loneliness, self-doubt and emotional pain in life. No one has a monopoly on such things and we should try to be more understanding and compassionate towards others, because they too suffer as we do in life.

Forgiveness and empathy are keys to a happy relationship, the understanding of the fact we all are the same far as what we suffer in life opens up the door to forgiveness. Remember we all are human therefore we shall make mistakes, we all feel similar feelings and experience very similar hardships in life. If you look at it like each one of us are a part of a whole, then you will see that if one piece of the whole is broken the whole suffers. So to be compassionate, forgiving and empathetic towards the other pieces is beneficial to the whole as much as it is to the individual.

 

Mind Exposure 03-01-16 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Mind Exposure 2-27-2016


Walking while looking behind you only makes one trip on what’s in front of them. So best to leave the past in the past and focus on what is both immediately in front of you and that which is ahead of you in life. The present is where you should be focusing and never hurts to prepare and plan for the future a bit as well. But just like the past, the future can cause you to miss what is right in front of you.

Celebrate, Embrace and Cherish whom and what you have here and now in your life, for it all can easily slip away in flash. Hold on to who you have to love, let them know how you feel daily, for life is short in time and we should be thankful for the blessings we have.

Mind Exposure 2-27-2016 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Mind Exposure 2-21-2016


In life there are many ups and downs, sometimes you may even hit rock bottom and lose all that you had worked so hard to get. It not so much the material possessions themselves but the security you once had that is the greatest loss in such situations. The loss of a place to lay your head down at night and place that you can be at home. Being without a home is not an easy thing at all, though a home is not four walls and a roof either. I myself had experienced living on the streets for a short time, I ate in a soup kitchen or two as well. I was amazed to see how many people did live in the woods and alleyways, I was also astonished by their sense of community within their groups. Tell you, I would not suggest living on the streets for anyone, but it is a humbling and mind sobering experience.

To this day, I truly believe my experiences with being homeless was something that God wanted me to experience, having multiple perspective views on life is a great gift. During this period of time I was homeless I had met some really great people whom just either got dealt a bad hand in life or made one bad choice in their life. Though I doubt any of them will ever see this post I want to say thanks to all of them that helped me during that period for without them  i am not sure if i could have survived during that period of my life.

Well I guess what I am getting at is home isn’t a house, possessions don’t make one happy and the fellowship I found during that period was the  thing that helped me through it all.  Friendship, companionship and family are the greatest treasures we have as humans. Be that the companionship is found with another human or with a furry companion such as a dog or cat.

Any material possession can be replaced but a true friend, companion and family member can not. They are once in a lifetime gifts we receive and because they are we should cherish them greatly.

 

 

Mind Exposure 2-21-2016 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Mind Exposure 2-20-2016


In modern society one can easily lose touch with who they are, lose their true identity. With the overwhelming amounts of information, social customs, common core beliefs and experiences going on around a person its hard to hold on to what is truly yourself. Most of us never give our minds a rest from the hectic modern world, our minds become overwhelmed and even somewhat impaired from lack of rest.

Simple things such as camping, hiking and yes even taking a long scenic drive can help relax the mind so can meditation and even listening to some relaxing music. It basically boils down to what they call some ME time, time for you to be alone and let go of the stress of modern society and life. Time to be just yourself and enjoy the simple fact of being alive itself.

Find you the time and find you that special place where you can just sit and relax. Even if it is just on the front porch watching the birds in the trees or feeling the soothing breeze. Its your life, your world to embrace  and  you have the right to be happy within it.

Mind Exposure 2-20-2016 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Mind Exposure 2/11/16


Love, something that everyone seeks and each of us has within ourselves to give. Love is one of those things you must give in order to truly receive and appreciate. Love can not be limited only to those we know or just our family. Love must be unconditionally given and received or it is not love in its truest form. Many religions and philosophies point to the value of love and its necessity in our world. Selfishness, fear and hate seem to be more common place in humanity. Love and compassion are looked down on as if they are properties of the weak and/or meek.

We have a choice to make in our lives, we either can be compassionate, forgiving and loving beings or we can follow the path of greed, anger and fear. One brings you the riches of this world, which is temporary and that can be taken from you by another. The other offers the riches of the heart, which can not be stolen but can be shared freely. Do not get me wrong, we all want nice things and we should have what we need. But to put material possessions above the well-being and happiness of others is selfish.

Love starts within yourself, you must learn to love yourself and others unconditionally and be open to accept the love of others. Get over and let go of this worlds labels that separate us all, for no man nor woman is greater or lesser than another. If we be different in beliefs, sex, nationality or color it is unimportant. We all come into this world the same way and in the end we leave it through the same avenue. We all have hopes, dreams and we also all experience fear, anger and disappointment. The only thing that divides us is the belief we are different. Sure we are diverse in beliefs and looks but the core of each person is the same. We are alive, we are human and we all are in this life together.

Alone one person can make changes in the world, but collectively there is very little that humanity can not achieve and/or overcome. Until we learn to put aside our differences of opinion and beliefs and learn to accept unconditionally those differences we will remain being our own worst enemies.

Mind Exposure 2/11/16 was originally published on Mind Exposure