There is a darkness that hides within all of us deep within the recesses of our minds. It lurks in the shadows hiding from the light only to spring out to cause despair or fright. Some call it depression and anger others call it your dark side. Either way it comes out to play when things seem too good to be true to humble you and bring you back to reality. This darker side of yourself is fueled by your fears, doubts and even your pride.
To have light one must have darkness and to have happiness there must be sadness.The ratio of the mix is the one thing you can control allong with how much power you give to them. There is darkness in every one of us if we want to face it or not. It is part of the human condition and will be with us as long as humans exist. Luckily there is the thing of good and light with each of us also. Things such as love,compassion, understanding and charity that balances it out and can keep the darkness in check.
A good friend of mine recently suffered a from a broken heart and that is something very devastating to have to live through. We all have to deal with having our heart broken from time to time in life and some are worse than others. The thing is even though your heart has been broken it is still there and still is full of love though the pain you feel is blocking the way. Do not let one bad apple in the barrel keep you from tasting the others. To find someone who loves you the way you want and the way you are willing to love them back is sometimes a long and even painful path at times.
To quote a great author “ It is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all” and I believe that is true. I myself rather be loved and love others than to be lonely and never know the grandness of love no matter how short lived or how painful the death of that love is. For the pain will eventually pass and usually a warmer and better love comes along in the end. Live life and love the time you have with friends, lovers and potential lovers you meet in life and never expect more from others than you yourself can give or do and all should be good.
If you had fun along the way remember it more than the heartbreak because that is what matters. Remember the good and quickly suffer the pain you have and put it behind you so you can move on and find that one you are looking for. Also remember no person is perfect and neither is any relationship. Perfection is something that is not obtainable , but there are loves that are awesome that one can be blessed with . Love yourself for who and what you are and eventually someone out there will love you the same way.
Take it from someone who has had his heart ripped to shreds a few times in life and broken quite a few. Love is worth all the heartbreaks because eventually you will find the one that will make all those heartaches disappear.
What is insecurity and why do most people suffer with it in one form or another? Insecurity is usually caused by the lack of acceptance by our peers or the lack of confidence in our own selves. When we are not accepted by our peers we tend to see ourselves as dysfunctional or inferior in one way or another. We tend to value the opinions of others over our own. We allow the opinions of others to control our own self perception and that can create a very negative self image. Though other peoples opinions will always play a part in our lives we must realize that they are opinions not facts. I have watched so many good people be held down or back from their full potential by the opinions and actions of others. Being popular or accepted may have its emotional and social rewards but the popularity can and most of the time usually is short lived.
One should not look outward for acceptance and validation , you should look inward for if you do not accept and embrace who you are then you will never become the person that you truly can be. Each one of us has the potential for greatness within us and each of us has our unique qualities that makes us grand. Some of us have exterior beauty as a gift but that fades with time and age, but all of us have a unique inner quality that will remain with us till our time to leave this world. I guess we all strive for physical appearance and social ranking because we live in a time where everything is so temporary and disposable. We get bombarded with images of how we should look and how our life should be in the many forms of visual media available in this modern age that it makes us feel inferior or lacking in one way or another. Most of the people we see in visual media have been altered by make up, soft filters on the cameras and air brushing on the photo images. This gives the illusion of perfection and beauty that very rarely exists if at all in nature.
There is also the victim mentality that seems to be a mainstream theme in modern society, So many people feel they have been a victim in one way or another in their life. Not saying we haven’t been victimized but to hold on to the mentality of being a victim only keeps one from moving on and living life. Why waste the time we have here on earth worrying about what has happened when we could be celebrating what is now and is yet to come. Fear is another factor that seems to be a road block to happiness if it is held on to and allowed to be a daily occurrence. Fear has its place but is meant to be short lived, when we allow it to stay for too long it grows and takes control of our daily life. Living in constant fear keeps us from enjoying life the way we are meant to. As one of our presidents said the only thing we have to fear is fear itself and he was 100% right. I always like the line from the movie Dune that was Fear is the mind killer and if you really think about it that is true. Fear seems to consume ones every waking moment and thought when it is present. It makes us only focus on that which caused the fear and keeps us from thinking of the greater things in life.
Well enough of my babbling for today
Peace
R. Barbier
I have noticed in the news they have been pushing the fresh fruits and vegetable thing again and I think it is a good idea. Unfortunately most fresh fruits and vegetables are quite expensive compared to the unhealthy foods most of us like and eat. There is one way to cut costs on fresh produce and that is to grow your own and can them yourself. What you don’t eat during the season is still healthier as home canned than store bought canned. Frozen produce has been proven also to be as healthy if not sometimes healthier than the fresh produce at the grocery store. This is due to the fact the produce is frozen close to the harvest time that retains the nutritional levels unlike produce that is shipped and stored which makes it less nutritional due to the time between harvest and consumption. Fresh picked produce is better especially if you were the one to grow it because the fact you would use less pesticides if none during the growing process.
Even Meat sources that are raised by the consumer would be healthier due to the absence of hormones and antibiotics that commercial farms use. Plus fresh meat tastes better or at least it does to me. Just remember the old saying you are what you eat so when you eat chemicals and additives in processed food your body either has to work hard to remove the toxins or it is storing it in your body fat. Do not always listen to what the media and government tries to say is or isn’t healthy just follow the rule if it is not natural then more and likely it isn’t healthy to eat. And if it is natural is is safe to eat if not healthy. Some natural things are not as healthy as others but if you balance your good with not as good then you can have a enjoyable and healthy diet.
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