Self forgiveness is something that very few of us ever practice, forgiving one’s self seems to be a much harder task than to forgive others. Why does it seem that to forgive some one is much easier than to forgive our own mistakes and transgressions? For some reason we tend to be much harder on ourselves than we are on other people. We must realize that like everyone else we are not perfect and therefore we will make mistakes and should learn from those mistakes but not allow those mistakes to control our lives. We can focus on our positive attributes and our achievements instead of on our mistakes and our negative aspects. Mistakes being a part of the natural learning process that we all go through and they are beneficial in learning what we should not do. So making mistakes is something that we all must face in this life that we live.
Guilt which is an aftereffect of making a mistake is suppose to be a short lived emotion to help us remember that we had made that mistake. Guilt is not supposed to be a lifelong emotion and if it becomes one it changes from a beneficial emotion into a destructive emotion. Suffering Guilt for a long period of time is devastating to a persons self-esteem and their personal happiness. Accept the mistakes that you have made, then learn from them and try not to repeat them is about all one can do. Everybody makes mistakes and everyone faces guilt from time to time and that my friend is what being human is all about.
Well till next time
Peace R. Barbier
Anger serves a purpose but is meant to be a temporary state of emotion not a way of life. Anger is designed for the purpose of self preservation and defense , It is a response to a negative force we encounter and usually turns off after the event. Sometimes anger will linger and cause great physical distress which is not its true design. Instead of anger we are supposed to have a memory of the incident and the mistrust or caution mentality. To hold on to anger for too long of time it creates a negative effect on your social and physical well being. To allow any emotion to be in control of you and your daily life is unhealthy. Emotions should be under your control not the other way around. Taming emotions that have gone wild and has gained control of your life is not an easy task. But like any challenge we face in life it is possible with determination and allot of self control. Though meditation, hypnosis and plain common sense one can regain control over their emotions within time. The first step is to realize that your emotions are in control of you and that you need to regain control of them.
Some people choose to ignore or try and shut off their emotions and this also creates problems for your body and mind. Learn to experience your emotions when they come and then learn to let go of them once they are no longer necessary. Mankind has always had to deal with their emotions and how they can both be beneficial and devastating to the individual who experiences them. Too much emotions is bad just as too little of emotions is also bad. Find a balance between both extremes and learn to be the master of them and all will be well. When a emotion becomes too strong and uncontrollable find a way to express that emotion and to get it out of you. Writing, exercise, and any form of artistic expression usually are good ways to express and release the emotions you are dealing with. There are many other ways to deal with the overbearing emotions one can experience and each person needs to find the best way for them.
Depression is one of the most devastating emotions one must face and when facing it I would suggest not doing it alone, Talk to your family and friends about your sadness and ask them for help and if it is a very severe case do not feel ashamed to go ask for help from your physician or a therapist. Being depressed may be natural from time to time but it is not normal to be depressed all of the time.
Well enough rambling for today.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, parent, child or lover and holding on to that belief only keeps someone from enjoying life and those who are in it. If we would learn to accept the fact the person we love and care about is human and will have many flaws we might be happier in our relationships. We can not expect anyone to adhere to the standards of perfection we have in our mind. Each person has both great qualities and potential as well as a bad side to their personality. We all suffer from a bad side and there is not one person here on earth who is perfect. We all should show respect to others and have self respect as well. Respect for each other is a very important part of any relationship, without respect a relationship will fall apart eventually.
Respect yourself and all others and love without condition along with understanding. Try to see things through the eyes of others and realize that sometimes there is more there than meets the eye. Never expect perfection from yourself or others. This is not to say you cant have high standards for yourself and others but be realistic in the standards you set. If you set the bar too high then you or they will never reach the goal or standard. Also remember relationships are a partnership so you must work together to make the relationship work and to improve its quality.
“Love yourself and others for who and what they are”
What if 2010 was the end of mankind’s time on earth? What if it becomes the extinction of all life on earth and everything we have achieved is washed away in the blink of an eye? It would be a shame to see all the accomplishments of man to be lost and forgotten. Man as a species has had many wonderful achievements and have done both some very remarkable acts as well as some that were quite horrifying. We have cured and managed many diseases , sent men to the moon along with created the atom bomb.
Though mankind has just begun learning the lessons of life we are coming closer to the end of our time here on earth. The solar cycles of the sun and the natural cycles of the earth compounded with the greenhouse gases mankind has contributed through industry and deforestation the planet we live on is growing hotter and more hostile. If we were able to determine an exact date for the end of mankind or the end of an inhabitable earth, would that change or influence mankind? Would we change our way of life to avoid or to extend our time here on earth?
Eventually earth will become inhabitable for all life, volcanic activity and the shifting of the earths plates will influence the earths weather and atmosphere to the point that mass extinction will take place. Even if we are lucky enough to escape or survive such changes there is both the threat of a mass solar event and the near earth objects that will one day collide with earth and kill off the majority of life. So what is mankind to do to survive beyond the disasters awaiting us in our future? The only possibility for the survival of mankind is to make our first and foremost priority the colonization of space.
Unfortunately world governments see national security and military dominance more important than the wellbeing and survival of the human race. Seems to me that most government officials are too disconnected from the people they are meant to serve. This is how it has been since the creation of countries and nations. The Ruling class has always enjoyed life at the expense of the working class and it probably will remain this way till the end of time. Who knows, we may have thousands of years left before something happens that kills of the human race. We might even become advanced enough to prevent the destruction of earth and to colonize the planets in deep space. One can always dream and have hope that mankind will find a way to survive.
Enough Ranting for now
Peace. R. Barbier
Walking, Jogging and Bicycling are not only good for the body but they also contribute to your mental health as well. They help the body get rid of triglycerides and also trigger the production of several key chemicals that help to enhance your mood. Our bodies were designed to move and quite often, we were designed to be both hunters and gatherers which before the modern world appeared helped us to keep healthy. Now with T.V. and computers occupying most of our free time and our jobs becoming less and less of a physical workout we seem to be putting on the pounds which promotes the decline in our health.
Since for most of us the hunting gathering days are behind us we need to take time from our T.V. and other modern conveniences to go out and do something both fun and healthy. You can get exercise from many fun activities such as playing basketball, baseball or even playing tag with your children. Walking is one of the best forms of exercise since its low impact and you can start at the lowest pace. Even slow paced walking is beneficial and now studies show you can walk or jog in small 15 minute intervals two to three times a day and still get the same result as if you did it all in one session.
I myself find walking very therapeutic and quite calming for my nerves and mind. While walking I tend to dwell on the problems of the day to start with and work them out then I clear my mind and focus on the scenery. By the time my walk is over I don’t feel all the stress I felt before the walk. Some of that is due to the chemicals the body creates during exercise and the rest is due to the fact I am able to let go of my problems during the walk. I believe walking is similar to Tai Chi in the sense it can be a type of moving meditation if one desires. Tai Chi is also a good form of exercise and has proven to be beneficial to your muscle and joint health and calming to the mind.
Try to find a physical activity that is fun to do and you will find a happier and healthier you. Get up and get outside so you can enjoy life.
Until Next Time.
It seems we have many limitations that are from our youth, These were limitations that we were programmed with by our parents, siblings and peers, Also there are limitations we hold on to from the failures of our youth. These limitations we have adopted and placed upon ourselves can be removed in time and with allot of effort. The hardest part is identifying the limits we have set in our subconscious.. Once identified some are easily removed by their discovery and some takes a little reprogramming per se. Like if you were told you will never be happy all the time when your a child more than likely you will be unhappy for the most of your life until you convince yourself you can be. Too many people suffer from verbal abuse and carry the damage with them through out their life. To undo all the years of acceptance and living with the negative self image created by the abuse is hard and somewhat a time consuming yet worthwhile project.
Your brain is like an organic computer and it functions within the parameters of the data it has been fed through out your life. Though it isn’t possible to format and reload your brain, you can replace data with newer and more beneficial data. The process takes allot of time and determination to succeed . Meditation, self hypnosis, Visualization and just leaving yourself notes everywhere that tells you the positive things you need to read/hear are a few of the ways to accomplish the data swap/ reprogramming. Some people respond well to subliminal audio tapes and or video , but some do not respond at all to that technique. Positive thinking is also a part of the process and helps you along to a more positive self appearance and self esteem.
Here are a few links to help you get started .
Hope some of these links are useful on your quest of self improvement.
Until the Next Time
Mankind has such great potential and could accomplish such amazing and wondrous things. We are such an adaptive and creative species that we have survived the ice age and countless wars, famines and earthly disasters. Only if we could focus our ingenuity and creativity in the direction of bettering our world and our species. Though we have knowledge and technologies we seem to lack the wisdom to use them for the common good of all life. We still seems to allow greed and the lust for power to stand in the way of the wondrous future that awaits us. We put more effort into creating weapons and promoting war than we do into discovering medical cures and furthering our research into the unknown. I understand the need to keep a nation secure and prepared for possible war and even though war is never a good thing it is a part of life. But some nations put almost all their resources into national defense and security without much debate. Then they seem more than willing to spend an unlimited amount of money on military projects and national security but spend nothing on the improvement on the quality of life for the citizens who are the source of all the money being spent. I There should always be balance between protecting what you have and improving the quality in which one lives. What use is it to protect something if you let it rust and rot away?
Seems though mankind has come along way and has grown from a child to a teenager, we still have allot of learning and growing up to do. The only fear I have is that we may wait till it is to late and we will bring our own destruction if not extinction to ourselves. I also see possible hope because of mankind’s ability to adapt and overcome, Our creativeness and our driving spirit may help us see the path we are on is not the best nor the only path before us. Only if mankind starts using its heart to guide its mind and its actions will we have a chance to continue as a species and a race. I hope it will not take a great catastrophe before we will come together and work for the common good of all nations and all life.
Enough Rambling For Now
Sometimes we seem to overlook the many blessings God has given us and we focus on the curses we brought upon our own selves. So many great gifts he has given to us every thing from life itself down to the power of freewill. We seem to get so caught up in the things we do not have and that which we want we forget how fortunate we are to have the things God has given us. Even things we like to give mankind and our own selves credit for is his works and his power that brought them to be within our life. Without God initially giving us life nothing would be possible at all. He gave mankind the ability to learn and to adapt to almost any situation that arises. He gave each one of us our own unique abilities and special qualities to help ourselves and those around us.
Anything and everything mankind does is the result of Gods power and will manifested in the physical world. Yes, Even the evil things we do springs from the gifts he gave us. The gift of freewill is the gift that allows us to take all other gifts given to us and use them for the good of mankind and the world or for evil. The choice of how you use the gifts and abilities he granted each one of us is what freewill is all about. But along with freewill comes responsibility and the results of the choices made.
Because of freewill we will be responsible for our actions and decisions we make in this lifetime god has granted us. To be honest there is not one of us that is righteous enough to enter the kingdom of heaven. The grace and the great gift of Jesus Christ is the saving grace for mankind. His blood washes our sins, But only the sins we truly regret and repent for.
So the next time you feel down, depressed or just alone in the world think of all the gifts God has already given you and know there are many more awaiting you both here on earth and in heaven. Myself I rejoice in every morning I get to see and every night that comes afterward. Life may not be perfect and surely isn’t always a rose garden but it has its roses along with the thorns. I find a few thorns always makes me appreciate the roses of my life even more. One good thing is in life things always change if you wait long enough, So even the worst moments in life will pass if you keep faith and hope by your side.
Enough Rambling For Now
Why is it we base our self image and self worth on the opinions of others ad not on our own? Why does the opinions of others count more than our own? Well they don’t, our opinion and theirs is actually equal in the grand scheme but when it comes to self image and worth our opinion is the one that matters. It doesn’t matter what others think of you as long as you are happy with who and what you are. Every one of us tend to look at our flaws both physical and personality wise more so than our good traits. This seems to be associated with our desire to belong and to be like the people we are around. The secret is even the most confident and the extremely good looking person sees flaws in both their body and in their personality.
We focus too much on the superficial exterior beauty of our bodies and the illusion of being popular and or charismatic. When in fact we all have the same potential and the same feelings inside as each other. We let other peoples opinions and ideals of what beauty and popularity should be that we miss the truth. Each one of us is beautiful and each of us are unique and special. The way we look and or the financial status we hold has nothing to do with our true potential and our true self. There are those who go out of there way to bring torment and chaos to others so to give them the illusion of being above those they torment. If they succeed in making someone look lower than them they can live in the illusion of being better and above. Usually this will backfire in the end and they will find themselves alone and depressed. Beware of those kind of people they are so sad and angry inside they rarely escape the vicious cycle they have started.
Then there is the people out there that take blame for everything that happens to them and those around them without just cause or reason. They have so little self worth and self esteem they blame themselves for everything because they don’t think they deserve any better. Usually this type of person has the kindest of hearts and has been abused emotionally to the point they have no self-esteem. They usually pull themselves out of this in time but a few hold on to it through their life. They need to embrace who they are and love the kindness and compassion they have deep within.
We are all born equal and we all die equal, thus its common sense that we all are equal in life as well. The illusions of beauty, social status and popularity is a creation of the worlds mindset. The power that some seem to have over others is an illusion propagated by both the one with the so called power and those he controls. It takes the belief in something to make it a reality, even illusions have strength in reality if enough people believe in it. This is how cults grow and gain power over its followers. No matter what one says, you have the power and the ability to do almost anything you desire and no one but you can make you happy or content.
See yourself as the person you really are and make the choices to make that person who you want it to be not that others want. Find happiness in who you are and who you will become. Embrace the power of freewill god has given you and use it to make yourself what you see as the ideal you. Once you do, you will see how many will love you as who you are and how those that don’t will not matter to you or your life.
Well enough Rambling for now
There are times in our lives where we feel worn down and alone in the world. Like all is lost and hope is nowhere to be found. The despair we feel is brought on by our belief we have no control over the situation we are in. Though dark clouds fill our skies there is still sunshine above those clouds trying to get through. In times like these we are our own worst enemy because we seem to embrace the depression and hold on to the pain because we lost all hope. The only way we can save ourselves from such despair is to embrace hope and have faith while facing the darkness and reaching for the sun.
Faith is a great healer and a great champion of God, He gave us faith as a way to overcome the darkness in this world and to give us strength to face our own weaknesses. I believe he has given us the ability to rise above and to face head on almost any situation that can arise in life if we keep faith in him and in our own selves. Hope, faith, charity, compassion and love are the keys to a happier life. Every night is blessed for you have made it through another day. Every morning is blessed because you live yet another day to try and be a better person and to find happiness.
A good thing is everything has its time and then must pass, so any depression , sadness or suffering you may be facing will have to pass in time. How fast it will pass is up to how much you either embrace it or how hard you fight against it. The more you fight against it the quicker it will fade. Just like when we were children and bad things would happen, we would deal with it and have sorrow but then move on quickly to the next day leaving it behind us. When we were children we lived for the day and not in the past or for the future. We truly lived life how it was meant to be back then. No sorrow, anger or despair would follow us longer than a few days and then we would move on with life.
It seems as we grow older we become obsessed with the past and fearful of the future to the point we forget to live here in the now. All the mistakes we made in the past seem more important than the grace of having life today. The future we fear because we know not what it may contain for us. We can not change the past so we should forgive our mistakes of the days gone by and embrace the wisdom we have gained from the experiences we had. We can not see what may come in the future but we have the power to mold the future by the choices we make in the present. So fear not the future and make the choices that can make you a brighter one.
Carpe Diem – Seize the Moment and live here in the present. Be yourself and enjoy the day given to you to live. Waste not one minute of your day with worry or regret!