Acceptance, something most of us crave and need to be a functional and somewhat happy individual. A lot of the time we are accepted by our peers but we have a hard time accepting ourselves. Our brain takes what we think about ourselves and uses it to filter the world around us, so even if someone is loved, appreciated and accepted they may feel the total opposite of that if they have a poor self image and can not accept themselves for who and what they are.
If most people would just spend 1/4 of the time they do on trying to be accepted by others on improving their self image and in accepting themselves then they would be much happier in their lives. Learning to accept yourself with all your faults and bad habits is not a walk in the park, but it is not a non obtainable goal. The first thing is learning to forgive yourself for the things you did that you consider wrong or mistakes. The baggage of past actions only builds guilt, which guilt has a purpose but it is not meant to be lifelong thing. Forgive yourself, your only human and you will make mistakes along the way. Learn from them, forgive yourself and move on. Let go of your past, don’t live in the past for it only steals away today. If you have things you do still that bother you then work hard on changing them, but until you change them learn to accept that side of yourself and forgive yourself for not being perfect.
Focus on serving others, to do good for others is a great way to improve your self image and worth. It also teaches you to consider others above yourself at times. Find activities that make you feel better about yourself and get out and socialize, being an island unto yourself is not the best way to live, it only opens you up to being lonely and disconnected from the world we live in. Just remember no matter what you have done in your life, that you deserve to be happy and live life to its fullest. Even if it was something horrible, that was then and this is now, learn to be a better person and live a happy and productive life like we all should live.
Blessings and happiness to you all
Sometimes we get so caught up in our own emotions, thoughts and ego that we overlook the fact that the other person in front of us has feelings of their own. We allow our own pain and frustration cloud our vision of what is really going on. We all suffer from loneliness, self-doubt and emotional pain in life. No one has a monopoly on such things and we should try to be more understanding and compassionate towards others, because they too suffer as we do in life.
Forgiveness and empathy are keys to a happy relationship, the understanding of the fact we all are the same far as what we suffer in life opens up the door to forgiveness. Remember we all are human therefore we shall make mistakes, we all feel similar feelings and experience very similar hardships in life. If you look at it like each one of us are a part of a whole, then you will see that if one piece of the whole is broken the whole suffers. So to be compassionate, forgiving and empathetic towards the other pieces is beneficial to the whole as much as it is to the individual.
Mind Exposure 03-01-16 was originally published on Mind Exposure
Walking while looking behind you only makes one trip on what’s in front of them. So best to leave the past in the past and focus on what is both immediately in front of you and that which is ahead of you in life. The present is where you should be focusing and never hurts to prepare and plan for the future a bit as well. But just like the past, the future can cause you to miss what is right in front of you.
Celebrate, Embrace and Cherish whom and what you have here and now in your life, for it all can easily slip away in flash. Hold on to who you have to love, let them know how you feel daily, for life is short in time and we should be thankful for the blessings we have.
Mind Exposure 2-27-2016 was originally published on Mind Exposure
Each morning we wake with yet another chance to change our lives and the world we live in. Yesterday and the mistakes made within it are gone, though we still may feel their effects we do have the power to make up for them and choose differently today. Make amends for your past mistakes and move on, for looking backward will only lead to you tripping up in the present.
Now you have awoken to a new day and received yet another chance to get it right, go forward and do so with all your heart and with the best intentions you can muster. For what you do here and now will determine what tomorrow will bring. Make you choices wisely and be not quick to judge others, for we all have fault within ourselves regardless of how hard we strive to be fault free. Look not for fault in yourself or others, instead look for the flicker of hope and goodness within each person you meet. Build upon that which is good and kind within yourself as you do your best to oppress that which is not.
The world revolves around us as a whole, not around us individually. All life is sacred and all of us are equal in the grand scheme of the universe. No part is considered lesser or greater in the eyes of creation, so embrace the part you have and live that part with all of your being. Also remember what part you play today may morph into a new one tomorrow, no path or part is 100% set. That grand randomizing effect of freewill allows each of us to change our paths in life, though it seems a balance is always maintained within change itself.
Walk the path you choose full heartedly and without any doubt, be a force of good and a heart full of compassion and forgiveness.
Mind Exposure 2-25-2016 was originally published on Mind Exposure
In life there are many ups and downs, sometimes you may even hit rock bottom and lose all that you had worked so hard to get. It not so much the material possessions themselves but the security you once had that is the greatest loss in such situations. The loss of a place to lay your head down at night and place that you can be at home. Being without a home is not an easy thing at all, though a home is not four walls and a roof either. I myself had experienced living on the streets for a short time, I ate in a soup kitchen or two as well. I was amazed to see how many people did live in the woods and alleyways, I was also astonished by their sense of community within their groups. Tell you, I would not suggest living on the streets for anyone, but it is a humbling and mind sobering experience.
To this day, I truly believe my experiences with being homeless was something that God wanted me to experience, having multiple perspective views on life is a great gift. During this period of time I was homeless I had met some really great people whom just either got dealt a bad hand in life or made one bad choice in their life. Though I doubt any of them will ever see this post I want to say thanks to all of them that helped me during that period for without them i am not sure if i could have survived during that period of my life.
Well I guess what I am getting at is home isn’t a house, possessions don’t make one happy and the fellowship I found during that period was the thing that helped me through it all. Friendship, companionship and family are the greatest treasures we have as humans. Be that the companionship is found with another human or with a furry companion such as a dog or cat.
Any material possession can be replaced but a true friend, companion and family member can not. They are once in a lifetime gifts we receive and because they are we should cherish them greatly.
Mind Exposure 2-21-2016 was originally published on Mind Exposure
Love, something that everyone seeks and each of us has within ourselves to give. Love is one of those things you must give in order to truly receive and appreciate. Love can not be limited only to those we know or just our family. Love must be unconditionally given and received or it is not love in its truest form. Many religions and philosophies point to the value of love and its necessity in our world. Selfishness, fear and hate seem to be more common place in humanity. Love and compassion are looked down on as if they are properties of the weak and/or meek.
We have a choice to make in our lives, we either can be compassionate, forgiving and loving beings or we can follow the path of greed, anger and fear. One brings you the riches of this world, which is temporary and that can be taken from you by another. The other offers the riches of the heart, which can not be stolen but can be shared freely. Do not get me wrong, we all want nice things and we should have what we need. But to put material possessions above the well-being and happiness of others is selfish.
Love starts within yourself, you must learn to love yourself and others unconditionally and be open to accept the love of others. Get over and let go of this worlds labels that separate us all, for no man nor woman is greater or lesser than another. If we be different in beliefs, sex, nationality or color it is unimportant. We all come into this world the same way and in the end we leave it through the same avenue. We all have hopes, dreams and we also all experience fear, anger and disappointment. The only thing that divides us is the belief we are different. Sure we are diverse in beliefs and looks but the core of each person is the same. We are alive, we are human and we all are in this life together.
Alone one person can make changes in the world, but collectively there is very little that humanity can not achieve and/or overcome. Until we learn to put aside our differences of opinion and beliefs and learn to accept unconditionally those differences we will remain being our own worst enemies.
Mind Exposure 2/11/16 was originally published on Mind Exposure
Enjoy the moment you are in and each moment that follows, for a moment only has its own time to be and never will it be again. Enjoy and celebrate who you are, you are the only person like you in all existence. Once your time is up you shall not be again, a lifetime is but a small amount of time to exist. So do not doubt yourself and do not cheat yourself from becoming the best you that you can be. Worry little about if others like or accept you, fo there will always be those that oppose and/or dislike you. Just the same there will be many who will love and accept you for who you are, So walk away from those who shun you and embrace those that do. Think no ill thoughts of those who dislike you. Life is way too short to waste energy trying to convince someone to like you, so use that time and energy on better things.
This is your moment, this is your life! Cherish it, embrace it and constantly work at making each moment more memorable than the last. This life is a gift, Celebrate it, live it and be thankful for this chance to exist.
Mind Exposure 12-16-2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure
Words say so much, they convey thoughts, feelings and bring your ideas to life. Taking the words and making them a part of reality, living by the words, bringing the words to life is part of the cycle. Words without action fall on deaf ears and blind eyes.
Good ideas should be acted upon, wise words should be lived by not just read and casted aside. Simple sayings such as the golden rule should be a part of your being not just a phrase spouted and put away when it’s not useful for self gain. So many claim to be things in which they may outwardly appear but inwardly are the opposite of. Hypocrisy is rampant in politics, religion and within the fabric of society. Preach one way and walk in another, claim to be one thing while acting the total opposite.
I guess we all are guilty of such things in one way or another in our lifetime. The point is that if you are going to live this life then be open, honest and true to who and what you are. In the end who and what you are shows itself to those around you. There is no hiding who and what you are , well at least not forever. Stop deceiving others and most of all stop deceiving yourself.
Be true to yourself
Words, Actions,Hypocrisy and being true was originally published on RJB Networks
Reset to Zero, Put behind you the memories that do you more harm than good. Reset the counter and start over, give yourself another chance like you know you should. Let go of the past, worry little of the future because the present is where you belong. Put away your anger, fear and sadness and sing out your life song. Don’t allow others to control your mood and become the navigator of your own life. Learn its far better to choose your path than to leave yourself in an ocean of strife.
The past is to learn from, the future is there to inspire you to change and grow. The present is where you live, it is where you are at all times of the day. We can not travel backwards and we surely can not jump ahead. We must live by the rules of time, we must be creatures of the here and now. Forgiveness is but a way of releasing the hurt and pain that we accumulated in the past. Understanding is something we use to avoid hurt and pain in the present. Love is something that exists in all time and space. Love is the fuel for the heart and soul. Without love we would be less than alive, we would have little purpose to continue forward in time.
Each day you live is the day to change and grow. You are unique and special, for everyone is not the same. Be who you are and be true to yourself as well. For being someone you are not is silly and unproductive. Follow your own heart and mind and let others walk their own path as well.
Worry not if a person likes you or not, for it is what you think about yourself that matters most. Just be the best you that you can be and show mercy, compassion and understanding to others. Be an example of what you see as a good person. Life is way too short to allow others to influence you in a negative way. So steer clear of negative people if you can not limit their influence they have on you. For Negativity don’t only affect your mind, it also affects your overall physical health as well.
Be Positive, thoughtful and aim at being a good example for others to follow. Leave a legacy of kindness, compassion, peace and love for the younger generation to learn by. It is your life, your choice and the time is now.
Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation. Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.
We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred? I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children. A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.
What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.
The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Random Thoughts 5/8/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure