Acceptance, something most of us crave and need to be a functional and somewhat happy individual. A lot of the time we are accepted by our peers but we have a hard time accepting ourselves. Our brain takes what we think about ourselves and uses it to filter the world around us, so even if someone is loved, appreciated and accepted they may feel the total opposite of that if they have a poor self image and can not accept themselves for who and what they are.
If most people would just spend 1/4 of the time they do on trying to be accepted by others on improving their self image and in accepting themselves then they would be much happier in their lives. Learning to accept yourself with all your faults and bad habits is not a walk in the park, but it is not a non obtainable goal. The first thing is learning to forgive yourself for the things you did that you consider wrong or mistakes. The baggage of past actions only builds guilt, which guilt has a purpose but it is not meant to be lifelong thing. Forgive yourself, your only human and you will make mistakes along the way. Learn from them, forgive yourself and move on. Let go of your past, don’t live in the past for it only steals away today. If you have things you do still that bother you then work hard on changing them, but until you change them learn to accept that side of yourself and forgive yourself for not being perfect.
Focus on serving others, to do good for others is a great way to improve your self image and worth. It also teaches you to consider others above yourself at times. Find activities that make you feel better about yourself and get out and socialize, being an island unto yourself is not the best way to live, it only opens you up to being lonely and disconnected from the world we live in. Just remember no matter what you have done in your life, that you deserve to be happy and live life to its fullest. Even if it was something horrible, that was then and this is now, learn to be a better person and live a happy and productive life like we all should live.
Blessings and happiness to you all
Sometimes we seem to be our own worst enemy, we tend to judge ourselves by impossible standards and with a harsher eye. We allow the opinions of others to influence our self-image, which if its positive is a good thing but unfortunately people are quicker to point out the flaws and mistakes in others than the good points. WE ned to learn to accept our own imperfections as a part of who we are now, if we don’t like them then we can change them as time goes by. But no reason to be down on yourself for being human and being imperfect, it’s all a part of life and growing as a person.
By understanding this about ourselves we also to accept the imperfections etc. in others as well. This is good for it will foster a friendlier atmosphere be it at home, work and when we are out having fun. Life is way too short to be a perfectionist and one who can’t be forgiving of themselves or others.
Memories of my youth, memories of sunny days and picnics by the river. Sunshine warming my body and friends to hangout with. Family members gathering and enjoying life for all it was worth. Those days have long gone but their influence on my soul is still with me. My friends have moved on and forgotten about me and family members are less now days. Ah the beauty and wonder of the innocence we had in youth, dreams of happiness and fulfillment. The desire to belong and to be a part of the world we live in and all of its splendor as well. Some of the dreams remain and so does the desire to be a part of something. Unfortunately the innocence is lost in time and through our experiences in life, though we lose our innocence we gain wisdom and knowledge to help us through our journey.
Random Thoughts 12-15-15 was originally published on RJB Networks
Sometimes I just kick back and think of how many times I failed to reach my goals, how many times I allowed the failure to disrupt my life and how foolish I was to allow it to do so. Failure may not be something to strive for but it is a something we all must face from time to time. Through failure one can learn a lot, you learn not only what not to do or how not to do it, you also learn a lot about yourself and what you need to change. Failing isn’t the end of the road, it is but a pothole that you ran over. So don’t let it become a roadblock or worse. Every great inventor had to have many failures before they found the right design, Edison went through many failures on the light bulb before he got the right design to make it work. So failure is something we all must deal with along our way to success.Main thing is to never give up, keep on trying until you exhaust every option you have. Eventually you will find the right combination and or plan to make it work.
Random Thoughts 10-29-2015 was originally published on RJB Networks
You may ask yourself at times why should I be a positive force? Why should I be a helpful, kind and compassionate being in a world where being selfish, greedy and self-serving is the norm. Just because the world has become such a place is a good enough reason for me. Why be like everyone else and be nothing but a mindless slave to the ways of society. Being Selfless, compassionate and loving person is a rewarding path in many ways. If you put forth the effort to live as a positive force in this world, you don’t only bring a positive influence on the environment you’re in but you also reap the benefits of the environment you’ve influenced and or created. As it is written you shall reap what you sow and karma in its own way does exist. Sure being selfish, greedy and focused on material gain can bring you temporary joy, but material wealth is something one can lose or have stolen from them.
Things such as love, compassion, charity and peace benefits not only the wielder but those around them. The happiness and joy achieved from such things can not be stolen or lost. Money in this modern world is necessary to survive, but it shouldn’t be our main focus in life. When you put your wealth and possessions before the wellbeing of our fellow human beings it is shameful and more animalistic than human.There always should be a balance between our material desires and the spiritual or emotional selves. To survive we must deal with the need and want for material possessions. We just need to learn to put that second to the more important need to be a community and positive force in this world. Put our Intellect, Reasoning skills and creativity in motion for the betterment of humanity and the world that we live in. The way you walk in life affects both you and those around you, we all are a part of the bigger picture. We all have our part to play be it hero, supporting staff, observer, advisor or even villain.
Which role you play is up to you, all I can say is I hope you chose to walk in your life in way that will benefit all around you. Chose to be someone and something that you can love and understand.
I wish a blessed day and may compassion be your guide through life.
Random Thoughts 10-18-2015 was originally published on RJB Networks
Words say so much, they convey thoughts, feelings and bring your ideas to life. Taking the words and making them a part of reality, living by the words, bringing the words to life is part of the cycle. Words without action fall on deaf ears and blind eyes.
Good ideas should be acted upon, wise words should be lived by not just read and casted aside. Simple sayings such as the golden rule should be a part of your being not just a phrase spouted and put away when it’s not useful for self gain. So many claim to be things in which they may outwardly appear but inwardly are the opposite of. Hypocrisy is rampant in politics, religion and within the fabric of society. Preach one way and walk in another, claim to be one thing while acting the total opposite.
I guess we all are guilty of such things in one way or another in our lifetime. The point is that if you are going to live this life then be open, honest and true to who and what you are. In the end who and what you are shows itself to those around you. There is no hiding who and what you are , well at least not forever. Stop deceiving others and most of all stop deceiving yourself.
Be true to yourself
Words, Actions,Hypocrisy and being true was originally published on RJB Networks
Sometimes life makes us feel insignificant, unnoticed and almost invisible . Our minds get trapped in this belief and self perpetuates the negative mentality. When that happens just shake it off for there is no one exactly like you in all of existence. You are unique, one of a kind so that negative thinking is nothing but your mind failing to see the truth around it. Yes, there are those who wont accept you or like you no matter what you say or do, those people are loosing out on a good opportunity to get to know yet another unique individual. Worry little over such things as if someone likes you or not, just treat others respectfully and be a good person that is what matters in the long run. Popularity may have its perks but they are short-lived just like the social status it brings. No one stays on top for ever so why bother seeking out something so temporary and unimportant. To be honest I believe being popular and in the spot light is far more stressful and problematic than it appears. To always worry about what people think, to have to work at remaining in the social spotlight and denying yourself the pleasure of being who you are for the sake of being popular seems kind of depressing if not plain silly. If they can not love and accept you as who you truly are then they are not accepting you at all. It’s all an illusion and a fake plastic like reality. Give me being average and my self over being someone I am not just for the sake of being popular any day. Take me as I am or move along, for this is me and that’s all your going to get.
You have to learn to love and accept who you are before you will find those who will do the same.
Random Thoughts 9-17-2015 Post 2 was originally published on RJB Networks
When I Look at the smile on my niece’s face it reminds me of a time when I believe in humanity. It brings back the hope and wonder I once felt as child. It also makes me think about the world we are living in today and if as a whole we all don’t change course the world she will inherit will be one full of turmoil, fear and hate.
Hope is still in my heart that one day humanity will learn to get along with itself and all other living beings, creatures alike. Maybe one day we will learn to look beyond the illusion of separation and the misconception that one person can be above or below another. We all come into this world the same way and we all have only one way out. So between the miracle of birth and the certainty of death we should find the strength and courage to put aside all our differences to make a better world for the children of today to inherit as well as the future generations yet to come.
Truthfully most of the so-called differences between each of us is superficial or non-existent. We all desire happiness and peace within our lifetime. We all want a better world for the children and a happier existence for both ourselves and those around us. Only when we put aside such things as greed, fear and hate will we as a species be able to survive and flourish.
When I look at the smile on my niece’s face I see the hope of humanity, in the eyes of every child I see humanity’s salvation. The Children are the key to our future and we are the ones who decide what direction this world will be heading when those children inherit it from us.
Reset to Zero, Put behind you the memories that do you more harm than good. Reset the counter and start over, give yourself another chance like you know you should. Let go of the past, worry little of the future because the present is where you belong. Put away your anger, fear and sadness and sing out your life song. Don’t allow others to control your mood and become the navigator of your own life. Learn its far better to choose your path than to leave yourself in an ocean of strife.
The past is to learn from, the future is there to inspire you to change and grow. The present is where you live, it is where you are at all times of the day. We can not travel backwards and we surely can not jump ahead. We must live by the rules of time, we must be creatures of the here and now. Forgiveness is but a way of releasing the hurt and pain that we accumulated in the past. Understanding is something we use to avoid hurt and pain in the present. Love is something that exists in all time and space. Love is the fuel for the heart and soul. Without love we would be less than alive, we would have little purpose to continue forward in time.
Each day you live is the day to change and grow. You are unique and special, for everyone is not the same. Be who you are and be true to yourself as well. For being someone you are not is silly and unproductive. Follow your own heart and mind and let others walk their own path as well.
Worry not if a person likes you or not, for it is what you think about yourself that matters most. Just be the best you that you can be and show mercy, compassion and understanding to others. Be an example of what you see as a good person. Life is way too short to allow others to influence you in a negative way. So steer clear of negative people if you can not limit their influence they have on you. For Negativity don’t only affect your mind, it also affects your overall physical health as well.
Be Positive, thoughtful and aim at being a good example for others to follow. Leave a legacy of kindness, compassion, peace and love for the younger generation to learn by. It is your life, your choice and the time is now.
Patterns of life, routines of the day. Habitual thought patterns and the repetitive responses to the world around us. We become so fixed on a certain way of thinking, behaving and reacting to the world around us. Break free, think outside the box, create new and more positive routines. Become the navigator of your life and stop being the passenger. Comfort Zones are nice, but they tend to keep us from growing and making better choices in our lives.
Also when we get in that comfort zone we tend to allow others to control a good part of our life. Everything from influencing our emotions to actually influencing the direction we are heading in our life. When in a comfort zone you are more likely to go with the flow and exert less effort in making choices. So step outside the zone and take the helm, its your life after all. Make the best f it and be the best version of yourself that you can achieve. For you only live once , do not waste any time in enjoying it.
Patterns of life, Routines of the day. Choose your thoughts and responses to the world around you wisely. Do not fixate on one way of doing things or one way of thinking. Find new ways to interact with the world we live in. Be a free spirit and be a person who chooses their own path in life.