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Random Thoughts 11-8-2022

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To love someone is to accept them as who they are, be there to help them if they need and accept their love and help in turn. Too many people think love is all about what they want in a relationship or how the other person should be. Love is more about what you can do for the other person, it’s more selfless than self-serving. Being in a relationship means being a partner not a boss or critic of the other person and learning to work together to make life better for you both.

Every person has faults and a negative side, and as long as the relationship isn’t abusive in nature you should work around those bad traits and try to help one another through them. Even an abusive relationship may have hope as long as it is not one that is intentional and severe, but I would avoid staying in an abusive relationship due to the risks involved to one or both parties.

People forget how fortunate they are to have a partner in life, and the easily forget how hard it is to stand alone for most of us out there. Being a person who spent up till about his 30s being alone, I do know how hard it is to face life alone, it may not be impossible, but it sure is nicer when you have someone by your side to help you through it and someone for you to help as well.

The Ego is one of the biggest roadblocks to a happy relationship, being stuck in that what about me, I want kind of mentality makes it hard to put your relationship first and your partner before yourself. If both sides follow the rule of putting the other before themselves in the end neither side will ever be without or be found lacking that which they need.

The ego, Self-centered mentality spawns in us as children, and in time it usually fades in most people, but some never outgrow that mentality and it makes it hard to have a good relationship for and with them. We all have a little of that selfish side in us, most of us learned how to put it in check for the most part.

Usually getting married and having children teaches most of us how to be more selfless, though not all of us are blessed with that fate, and some even who have been still don’t grasp the concept of putting those you love before yourself. I think we should just apply the golden rule to relationships, Treat your partner as you would love to have them treat you. If we all followed that rule in our love relationships and even in everyday ones, this world probably would be a much nicer place to live in.

Well, the concept is nice, and may just be an unrealistic hope of a dreamer, but one must keep hope in this world. Peace and blessings to you all

Ray Barbier

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Random Thoughts 2/14/2017

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  On Valentines day we are reminded about how fortunate we are to have someone in this world we love and hopefully loves us back.  The traditional buying candy, flowers and gifts for each other or just a greeting card is wonderful as long as we remember to express our feelings through words and actions as well.  Today is a good day to forgive your significant other for their mistakes and shortcomings as well as forgive ourselves for our own.

Most people do not realize how rare and wonderful it is to have someone to take this journey of life beside us, to walk alone is not a easy task in life and to walk beside another though challenging is far more wonderful than going it solo.  Remember your Love one is also your friend and as such you need to build a great relationship full of understanding and compassion between you two. Work together not against each other and seek out a harmonious partnership if it possible.

Also on Valentines day you need to Tell those friends that are there for you through life how much you appreciate them as well. They play an important part in your life and sometimes fill the gaps in your life that your special someone may not be able to do all the time. Someone to lean on, to talk to and just be yourself with. 

Blessings and Love be yours

Ray Barbier

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Mind Exposure 03-01-16

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Sometimes we get so caught up in our own emotions, thoughts and ego that we overlook the fact that the other person in front of us has feelings of their own. We allow our own pain and frustration cloud our vision of what is really going on. We all suffer from loneliness, self-doubt and emotional pain in life. No one has a monopoly on such things and we should try to be more understanding and compassionate towards others, because they too suffer as we do in life.

Forgiveness and empathy are keys to a happy relationship, the understanding of the fact we all are the same far as what we suffer in life opens up the door to forgiveness. Remember we all are human therefore we shall make mistakes, we all feel similar feelings and experience very similar hardships in life. If you look at it like each one of us are a part of a whole, then you will see that if one piece of the whole is broken the whole suffers. So to be compassionate, forgiving and empathetic towards the other pieces is beneficial to the whole as much as it is to the individual.

 

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Mind Exposure 2-25-2016

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Each morning we wake with yet another chance to change our lives and the world we live in. Yesterday and the mistakes made within it are gone, though we still may feel their effects we do have the power to make up for them and choose differently today. Make amends for your past mistakes and move on, for looking backward will only lead to you tripping up in the present.

Now you have awoken to a new day and received yet another chance to get it right, go forward and do so with all your heart and with the best intentions you can muster. For what you do here and now will determine what tomorrow will bring. Make you choices wisely and be not quick to judge others, for we all have fault within ourselves regardless of how hard we strive to be fault free. Look not for fault in yourself or others, instead look for the flicker of hope and goodness within each person you meet. Build upon that which is good and kind within yourself as you do your best to oppress that which is not.

The world revolves around us as a whole, not around us individually. All life is sacred and all of us are equal in the grand scheme of the universe. No part is considered lesser or greater in the eyes of creation, so embrace the part you have and live that part with all of your being. Also remember what part you play today may morph into a new one tomorrow, no path or part is 100% set. That grand randomizing effect of freewill allows each of us to change our paths in life, though it seems a balance is always maintained within change itself.

Walk the path you choose full heartedly and without any doubt, be a force of good and a heart full of compassion and forgiveness.

Ray Barbier

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Mind Exposure 2/11/16

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Love, something that everyone seeks and each of us has within ourselves to give. Love is one of those things you must give in order to truly receive and appreciate. Love can not be limited only to those we know or just our family. Love must be unconditionally given and received or it is not love in its truest form. Many religions and philosophies point to the value of love and its necessity in our world. Selfishness, fear and hate seem to be more common place in humanity. Love and compassion are looked down on as if they are properties of the weak and/or meek.

We have a choice to make in our lives, we either can be compassionate, forgiving and loving beings or we can follow the path of greed, anger and fear. One brings you the riches of this world, which is temporary and that can be taken from you by another. The other offers the riches of the heart, which can not be stolen but can be shared freely. Do not get me wrong, we all want nice things and we should have what we need. But to put material possessions above the well-being and happiness of others is selfish.

Love starts within yourself, you must learn to love yourself and others unconditionally and be open to accept the love of others. Get over and let go of this worlds labels that separate us all, for no man nor woman is greater or lesser than another. If we be different in beliefs, sex, nationality or color it is unimportant. We all come into this world the same way and in the end we leave it through the same avenue. We all have hopes, dreams and we also all experience fear, anger and disappointment. The only thing that divides us is the belief we are different. Sure we are diverse in beliefs and looks but the core of each person is the same. We are alive, we are human and we all are in this life together.

Alone one person can make changes in the world, but collectively there is very little that humanity can not achieve and/or overcome. Until we learn to put aside our differences of opinion and beliefs and learn to accept unconditionally those differences we will remain being our own worst enemies.

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Mind Exposure 12-31-2015

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mp900427741Serving Humanity, Something most of us rarely think about or we leave it others to do. Doing such things as feeding, clothing and help find housing for the needy or just showing kindness and hospitality towards strangers, visitors and others in general are all part of the territory of helping / serving fellow human beings. Why stop at humans, stray, abandoned and abuse animals also need compassion and food. A heart that is compassionate towards all life is a healthy heart. To put aside our own egos and our nature to be self-serving and to embrace a compassionate and humble mentality is quite honorable. It’s easy to be like the majority and worry only about oneself and those whom one loves and knows. It may a bit hard to be humble and dedicated to serve others, but the rewards are great. The satisfaction of helping others is just one benefit, the other benefit includes the friendships that will e forged in the process along with the creation of better self character. You will become more positive through doing positive and compassionate works. Though it is said one can not get into heaven on good works alone, that implies good works are one of the requirements one needs to enter. Good works are a reflection of ones heart and spirit, this is what makes the works truly good.

 

This Post Made me think of Matthew Vs 34-40

34Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: 35For I was  hungered, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: 36Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. 37Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee  hungered, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink? 38When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee? 39Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee? 40And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.

Matthew 34 -40

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Random Thoughts 5/8/2015

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011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

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Random Thoughts 5/8/2015

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011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

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011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

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It is your Story, your life that you live.

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010It is your Story, your life that you live. No one can take that away from you. You own you story and your life, no person can live your life or story.  How you live you life and how your story goes is solely up to you. The limitations you set for yourself as well as the boundaries define the outline of your story.  You are unique and one of a kind, no other human is exactly like you. Each one of us are special and not one is greater or lesser. The illusion of superiority or inferiority is the result of our choice to believe in such things. There are those whom can do one or more things better than another, but this is true in all of us. We all have our gifts, talents and natural abilities. The diversity of such things within our species gives us a great advantage in surviving this harsh world. Along with our ability to rely on each others strengths and being there for each other when it comes to our weaknesses and short comings.

The Division created in our society over such things as wealth, popularity, competition and egotism is only weakening us as a species in whole. We need to look past such things and learn such things as compassion, co-operation and acceptance of one another as is. Greed, envy and the misfortune reality of inequality in our modern world are stumbling blocks if not a huge road block in the way of our species advancement and survival.

And still our world is plagued with the age-old problems such as racism, sexism, nationalism and elitism. These of course stem from the emotion of fear. Fear is one of the biggest stumbling blocks humanity has. Fear is one of the strongest emotions we have and one of the hardest to overcome and/or repress. Anger is another of the emotions we as humans have a lot of trouble with. Most people have a hard time letting anger go and forgiving the trespasses of others. Anger and fear both can consume ones mind to the point where rational thinking is no longer possible.

We all are a part of the world we live in, regardless of the differences we have between each other as humans. Celebrate your unique and individuality, but remember we are all connected through the common thread of our species. The survival, happiness and wellbeing of each other should have as much importance as that of our own.  Humanity only survived this long due to our ability to work together.

Only if we can overcome our weaknesses such as greed, selfishness and fear will we be able to continue surviving as a species. We need to put  behind us such things as bigotry, elitism, separatism  and social classes . Learn to be compassionate, community minded and most of all understanding of each others shortcomings . The choice of how you interact and react with other people is your own and how you do so determines how they perceive you and  how they will interact with you as well.

 

Well that’s some collected random thoughts from a few weeks.

Ray Barbier

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