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Random Thoughts 4/20/2022


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People wonder why there is so much low self-esteem in the world, if you take a good look at television shows, commercials, social media, movies, and even the news on cable news stations you just may see some of the reasons for low self-esteem, but then there is also how one’s family treats them, their peers and the educational system.

When you are constantly bombarded with images of thin, fit, and muscular actors, advertisements aimed to push miracle vitamins and supplements to fix all your shortcomings, it is very hard to hold on to a good self-image and even harder to build it up. Constantly being told that having a perfect body weight, toned muscles, the right clothes, and accessories makes one beautiful and successful is making it hard for most people to maintain healthy self-esteem.

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Unfortunately, fashion, the newest electronics, and possessions play a big part in teenage self-image, which makes it hard for those who don’t have the money to compete with their peers. Combining that with parents that have to work 2 jobs or inconvenient hours to maintain the quality of life they have only makes it harder on teenagers and kids.

The ones that seem to suffer the worst during school years are those that don’t quite fit the norm, the overweight, the below-average to average looking, and the sensitive passive individuals. Bullying from those who think they are cool, tougher, and better than others does not help the situation at all. The consequences of bullying are usually mild and it seems it’s hard to catch kids bullying or maybe some just overlook it.

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Parents and siblings also play a large part in the development of a child’s self-esteem, they can be either a positive or negative force when it comes to a child’s self-image. Siblings usually are competing for the parent’s attention, love and favor so they tend to be very mean to one another. Parents on the other hand usually are trying to do what’s best for the child but don’t realize what works for one child does not always work for the other. Each child is a unique individual, they have different needs and need help in different ways. Some parents, unfortunately, don’t know how to deal with their children at all so they try to treat them as if they are adults way before the child or teen is emotionally and mentally ready to do so. This usually results in conflict and the child/teen becomes rebellious and has a poor self-image.

If the low self-esteem is not addressed and corrected during the child/teen years then it is carried into the adult years. That makes it very hard for the Adult to achieve a healthy relationship with a significant other and even harder for them to become successful in the work world.

Raising kids is not an easy task, being a parent means you have to be a caregiver, advisor, instructor, friend, leader, cook, counselor, and of course an ATM for the children lol. Helping a child navigate the battlefields of youth and preparing them for the many challenges they will have to face in the future is not an easy thing to accomplish. All you can do is give it your best shot and always be there for them when they need you.

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I myself have had self-esteem issues throughout my life, I have been battling low self-esteem for many decades. I could go down a list of all the things that caused my low self-esteem but what is the use of that now that it now falls squarely on me to repair the damage and improve myself. Plus the first step in moving on and building up your self-esteem/self-image is to forgive those who helped in destroying it and letting go of your own contributions to the whole mess as well.

Just know this, there is no one better than you, but then there is no one lesser than you. We all are unique, we all have our own gifts to embrace and shortcomings that we need to deal with. There is no one on this planet that does not have some emotional or psychological baggage to deal with. How much money you have, and how many toys you have has nothing to do with who you are or how good you are. What defines you is how you live life, and how you treat others and yourself.

Being successful sure feels good, being financially well off does make life easier in many ways, but money, possessions, and success are fleeting, they can be gone in an instant. Family and friends to me are far more important along with how I treat others, and how I live my life. Those things will be with me throughout my life.

Well, I wish you happiness, remember it does not matter what others think or say about you, it is what you know about yourself that matters the most.

Random Thoughts 4-17-2022


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During the last few years, it has really come to my attention that humanity tends to cling to hatred, fear, and selfishness far more than it should. The Ideal is that being compassionate, caring, showing love, and being nice in general are signs of weakness that are slowly destroying our societies. Too many hold on to the belief, that in order to be strong you must be callus, cold, and show no mercy.

I ask you this question, which takes more courage, which takes more effort and strength to achieve and maintain? Being a person who lets his fears, anger, and lack of trust guide his decision, being callous and uncaring so that you can achieve a goal, or the person who conquers his fear and puts aside all his anger and distrust in order to achieve his goal?

To me it seems far easier to give in to anger and fear, takes less courage and effort to follow the path of war and destruction. Takes a very strong individual to put themselves out there and do the right thing, to do the things that benefit others more than themselves. Regardless of which way you do things, you will have critics and naysayers, but I would rather be disliked for doing good and being kind than for being a warmonger or a bringer of hate and distrust.

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There is some hope for Humanity through all this pandemic and war business going on nowadays, look at those who have opened their hearts and homes to refugees, the people going out of their way to help protect others from the pandemic, and aid in keeping those infected alive. We have seen the worse of humanity and the best of humanity through the last few years and I really hope in the end, the best of humanity will outweigh the worse and become the light to guide the way for future generations to follow.

Try to remember, that we all are brothers and sisters on this earth regardless of our skin color, or religious or political beliefs. We all desire a peaceful and happy world for our children and the future children to come. Be compassionate, caring, and live in harmony, if not for yourself, then for your children and the future.

That said, May peace come soon to the Ukraine conflict, may the pandemic pass for us all, and Happy Easter, Passover, and Ramadan to you all. Happiness and peace to all of my Brothers and Sisters across the world.

Words, Actions,Hypocrisy and being true


Words say so much, they convey thoughts, feelings and bring your ideas to life. Taking the words and making them a part of reality, living by the words, bringing the words to life is part of the cycle. Words without action fall on deaf ears and blind eyes.

Good ideas should be acted upon, wise words should be lived by not just read and casted aside.  Simple sayings such as the golden rule should be a part of your being not just a phrase spouted and put away when it’s not useful for self gain. So many claim to be things in which they may outwardly appear but inwardly are the opposite of. Hypocrisy is rampant in politics, religion and within the fabric of society. Preach one way and walk in another, claim to be one thing while acting the total opposite.

I guess we all are guilty of such things in one way or another in our lifetime. The point is that if you are going to live this life then be open, honest and true to who and what you are. In the end who and what you are shows itself to those around you. There is no hiding who and what you are , well at least not forever.  Stop deceiving others and most of all stop deceiving yourself.

Be true to yourself
Ray Barbier.

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Words, Actions,Hypocrisy and being true was originally published on RJB Networks

Random Thoughts 9-17-2015 Post 2


Sometimes life makes us feel insignificant, unnoticed and almost invisible . Our minds get trapped in this belief and self perpetuates the negative mentality. When that happens just shake it off for there is no one exactly like you in all of existence. You are unique, one of a kind so that negative thinking is nothing but your mind failing to see the truth around it. Yes, there are those who wont accept you or like you no matter what you say or do, those people are loosing out on a good opportunity to get to know yet another unique individual. Worry little over such things as if someone likes you or not, just treat others respectfully and be a good person that is what matters in the long run. Popularity may have its perks but they are short-lived just like the social status it brings. No one stays on top for ever so why bother seeking out something so temporary and unimportant. To be honest I believe being popular and in the spot light is far more stressful and problematic than it appears. To always worry about what people think, to have to work at remaining in the social spotlight and denying yourself the pleasure of being who you are for the sake of being popular seems kind of depressing if not plain silly.  If they can not love and accept you as who you truly are then they are not accepting you at all. It’s all an illusion and a fake plastic like reality. Give me being average and my self over being someone I am not just for the sake of being popular any day. Take me as I am or move along, for this is me and that’s all your going to get.

You have to learn to love and accept who you are before you will find those who will do the same.

Ray Barbier

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Random Thoughts 9-17-2015 Post 2 was originally published on RJB Networks

Random Thoughts 5/10/2015


016One voice, one person can make a difference and create change in our world. Look to the past and you will see it starts with one voice, one person crying out for change. From great philosophers such as Socrates and Aristotle. Prophets from the bible, Koran and religious figures such as Buddha. One person can change the course of our future if they are willing to come forward and speak their heart and minds. The hard part is getting others to listen or to open their hearts and minds to a newer and possibly better way. Opposition will be out there, too many fear change and some just like things as they are because they are in good positions in their life.  Be very persistent and hold fast to your ideals and beliefs, don’t let those who oppose your way of believing sway you from your course.

Like all things in our world, if you want something you must work hard, think quickly and use wisdom to guide your path in order to be successful or to gain the change you seek. Kind of like my blogging, I have many who either ignore my posts or dislike them. Some criticize , others just make comments that oppose my views. They are all welcomed, for I don’t fear criticisms nor comments etc.  They teach me where I possible went wrong in trying to communicate through the posts and sometimes it enlightens me to flaws in my beliefs and thoughts.

My voice may not be one to make any change in this world beyond my own little bubble of reality, but I enjoy writing and thinking so I will continue on. At least I hope my posts inspire some to think or to write their own blogs and thoughts.

Blessings and Peace

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/10/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random Thoughts 5/10/2015


016One voice, one person can make a difference and create change in our world. Look to the past and you will see it starts with one voice, one person crying out for change. From great philosophers such as Socrates and Aristotle. Prophets from the bible, Koran and religious figures such as Buddha. One person can change the course of our future if they are willing to come forward and speak their heart and minds. The hard part is getting others to listen or to open their hearts and minds to a newer and possibly better way. Opposition will be out there, too many fear change and some just like things as they are because they are in good positions in their life.  Be very persistent and hold fast to your ideals and beliefs, don’t let those who oppose your way of believing sway you from your course.

Like all things in our world, if you want something you must work hard, think quickly and use wisdom to guide your path in order to be successful or to gain the change you seek. Kind of like my blogging, I have many who either ignore my posts or dislike them. Some criticize , others just make comments that oppose my views. They are all welcomed, for I don’t fear criticisms nor comments etc.  They teach me where I possible went wrong in trying to communicate through the posts and sometimes it enlightens me to flaws in my beliefs and thoughts.

My voice may not be one to make any change in this world beyond my own little bubble of reality, but I enjoy writing and thinking so I will continue on. At least I hope my posts inspire some to think or to write their own blogs and thoughts.

Blessings and Peace

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/10/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015


011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015


011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015


011  Honor, honesty, community and compassion are dying principles in our modern society. So are things such as communication and co-operation.  Too many set in their ways, so many unable to see beyond their own little bubbles of reality. It is us or them mentality seems to be prevalent, while such things as compassion, mercy and charity seem to be put aside. We tend to make each other adversaries or enemies as we ignore the real threat to us all. Ignorance, bigotry, elitism,complacency and lethargy threaten humanity’s ability to function and possibly threaten our future.

We allow such things as greed, lust, selfishness and fear get in the way of a better world for our children and the generations to follow. What kind of world do we want to leave for them to inherit? A world full of poverty, social division and inequality? Wars, famine and hatred?  I would hope we all desire a more peaceful and equally balanced world for our children.  A world where knowledge, compassion, honor and co-operation are cornerstones to society.

What kind of legacy will we leave? what will we leave for the next generation to deal with? Shouldn’t we try to face and fix the problems in our generation so the next can focus on their own? Fear and hatred needs to be controlled and put aside for the good of all humanity.

 

 

The Path you choose to walk not only determines your destiny but it influences the fate of those around you.
Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Random Thoughts 5/8/2015 was originally published on Mind Exposure

It is your Story, your life that you live.


010It is your Story, your life that you live. No one can take that away from you. You own you story and your life, no person can live your life or story.  How you live you life and how your story goes is solely up to you. The limitations you set for yourself as well as the boundaries define the outline of your story.  You are unique and one of a kind, no other human is exactly like you. Each one of us are special and not one is greater or lesser. The illusion of superiority or inferiority is the result of our choice to believe in such things. There are those whom can do one or more things better than another, but this is true in all of us. We all have our gifts, talents and natural abilities. The diversity of such things within our species gives us a great advantage in surviving this harsh world. Along with our ability to rely on each others strengths and being there for each other when it comes to our weaknesses and short comings.

The Division created in our society over such things as wealth, popularity, competition and egotism is only weakening us as a species in whole. We need to look past such things and learn such things as compassion, co-operation and acceptance of one another as is. Greed, envy and the misfortune reality of inequality in our modern world are stumbling blocks if not a huge road block in the way of our species advancement and survival.

And still our world is plagued with the age-old problems such as racism, sexism, nationalism and elitism. These of course stem from the emotion of fear. Fear is one of the biggest stumbling blocks humanity has. Fear is one of the strongest emotions we have and one of the hardest to overcome and/or repress. Anger is another of the emotions we as humans have a lot of trouble with. Most people have a hard time letting anger go and forgiving the trespasses of others. Anger and fear both can consume ones mind to the point where rational thinking is no longer possible.

We all are a part of the world we live in, regardless of the differences we have between each other as humans. Celebrate your unique and individuality, but remember we are all connected through the common thread of our species. The survival, happiness and wellbeing of each other should have as much importance as that of our own.  Humanity only survived this long due to our ability to work together.

Only if we can overcome our weaknesses such as greed, selfishness and fear will we be able to continue surviving as a species. We need to put  behind us such things as bigotry, elitism, separatism  and social classes . Learn to be compassionate, community minded and most of all understanding of each others shortcomings . The choice of how you interact and react with other people is your own and how you do so determines how they perceive you and  how they will interact with you as well.

 

Well that’s some collected random thoughts from a few weeks.

Ray Barbier

It is your Story, your life that you live. was originally published on Mind Exposure