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Random Thoughts 05-07-2018


Sometimes People walk through their life blind to the great blessings they have around them. They get hung up on either what they don’t have or what they think they should have.  Many get stuck in the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence mentality and overlook all green grass and potential in their own yard. Maybe it due to some folks too scared to put the work in to their life and relationships or they feel it is all a lost cause where they are in life. Nothing comes easy in life, nothing comes to be without some mental or physical effort.

You want a better life you have to work at it, work on changing yourself , the environment you are in and the circumstances that surround you. First thing is to get rid of both the negative and defeatist mentality that holds you back and keeps you from seeing not only the blessings around you but the potential blessings and happiness you can obtain.

Happiness is something you have within yourself, it is something that you alone create and maintain. Outside influences can affect your happiness but only as long and as much as you allow them too. In the end it is you that decide to be happy or not.  Most unhappiness comes from setting you goals way too high or expecting too much out of yourself and others. Do things in baby steps and try to see you are only human and so are those around you. We all are prone to make mistakes and we all at one time or another fall short of the expectations of others and even our own self.

Instead of dwelling on the mistakes, shortcomings and where we may lack in our abilities etc. , we should be focusing on the positive circumstances and experiences along with our known abilities. Work with what you have and add to it as you move forward, stop looking backwards and look ahead. Glancing back occasionally is fine if you do it for retrospection and to see where you went wrong in order to avoid the same mistakes, but it is not good to dwell on the past mistakes in such a way you let it fill your heart with despair and doubt.

Learn from your past mistakes but do not punish yourself beyond the moment they had happened. Grieve and move on, remembering the lessons learned not the pain associated with them.  This is why forgiveness is so important, not only does forgiveness release the person who done the wrong but it heals the person that had been wronged. Carrying grief, anger and remorse only holds one down and back from being the happy and loving person they are meant to be.

If you can move on from your past mistakes it frees you up to focus all that energy and time towards changing your life and yourself. You become free to be yourself and live life the way you are meant to. Gives you the time to tend to your own garden or yard per se and make it greener than any grass on the other side of the fence.

In a nut shell negative emotions are meant to teach us and be there to warn us, they are meant to be in the moment not a lifelong experience. Our life is what we make of it , we are the masters of our own life and destiny. How you live your life and how happy you are in it is your personal choice and responsibility.

 

Well there is my random thoughts today, just an average mans opinions and thoughts. May you find happiness and serenity in your life, always remember to think for yourself and question everything.

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 5-52018


When we are young we live life with vigor and let our true selves shine like the morning sun. As time marches on we learn to hide most of our true nature and personality in order to conform and to avoid being labeled an outsider or freak.  We will spend many decades behind a mask of our own design to protect ourselves and avoid the problems that one faces being different. Conform for work, conform for friends and in many ways conform and hide ourselves to keep harmony in our family.

Being true to oneself, being who you really are deep inside is something we owe to ourselves and the world we live in. That Diversity within personalities, beliefs and idealism is what makes the human race a force to be reckoned with. It was those who stood up against the norm and the general beliefs of their time that has pushed humankind forward, it helped us all to grow as a species and advance our knowledge and wisdom. Many of the greatest explorers and inventors were not what you would call conformists or mainstream in thinking or behavior . It’s those who push their limits and think out side of the box by being who they are to the fullest that have made some of the greatest discoveries.

Because everyone does something or believes something to be true does not mean it is so, it’s those who dare to question and explore the alternative ideals and ways that usually make the greatest discoveries and help mankind to move forward.  Do not put limits on your imagination and do not hide who you are from yourself and others. Be yourself to the maximum and practice free thought without limitations.

Of course Society needs some rules of conduct so we know how to and how not to behave in public, but this is not to say we can not be ourselves as long as we know where to put on the brakes. Behaving Civilized does not restrict one from being themselves , just keeps them from going too far is all.

Be yourself, Live life with vigor and with both respect for others and yourself. Walk with compassion and understanding as your guide. Remember we all have feelings and we all need help at one point or another in life. That person who you helped by buying him or her a dinner could be you if circumstances happen to change in your life. There is no guarantee tomorrow will come or that you will be employed beyond today.

Life is like an adventure and you are the explorer, you and the experiences you have in life are the best teachers you will ever have.

Peace and Serenity be yours

Ray Barbier

 

 

Random Thoughts 1-28-2018


004_thumb.jpg When I was young I was an idealist, dreamer and believer in humanity.  Now as I grow older and reached the half century mark I am not as much of a dreamer but I still fight to be an idealist. My belief in humanities potential has not changed but my belief in their willingness to change has diminished. It still there, just now I see things from more of a realistic view for the dreamer is not dead just less optimistic I guess. I believe that the internet and mass media played a big part on the decline of my optimism. The constant onslaught of information being consumed comes with a heavy toll. Bad news always prevails over the news of miracles and good news. Just how it has always been in this human world far back as the first spoken and/or written word.

I dare not give up on believing in a possible future where humanity works together for the common good instead of individualistic goals or gains. As humans we are wired to be selfish because we have our own perspective of what reality and life is. We are geared for self preservation and self promotion. The mind is geared that way to ensure survival, but we also have the side of us which is compassionate and focused on the group, the emotional side of ourselves is geared to ensure survival of the group and/or species in a whole. The problem is most people have imbalance between those two sides , Some tend to see taking care of themselves as the highest priority and the taking care of the group or whole as the lowest.  Both should be high priority, the whole should be the highest but the self should be right next to it in priority.

For if one is either totally selfless or completely selfish it does not serve the group or themselves in the end. Look at it in this way, if you had a horse and it worked selflessly, not eating or drinking to pull a wagon to market it may die before it makes it there. Just the same if it was selfish and ate, drank and rested all the time for it would either never reach its destination or would reach it too late.  One extreme or the other does no one any good, I will not say there is not times that we may have to make sacrifices or be totally selfless to get jobs done, just pointing out that only in extreme circumstances that we should do such.

Well Thank you for reading the ramblings of this old fool, and may you find your own path in life.

Blessings

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 1-26-2018


002_thumb.jpgWhen someone begins to believe they have all the answers is when that person loses their perspective and their hold on reality. One should always be open-minded and willing to dig for the truth, not just accept the readily available and accepted beliefs. For at one time in our history we all believed the universe revolved around the earth and that the earth was flat. To the available facts we had during those periods in history who was to argue with those beliefs? Well the few great thinkers and explorers who did not accept the then known beliefs did.

It is the curious minds, those minds not set in concrete that pave the way for humanity, we must reach beyond what we know to be true and into the unknown if we are to evolve mentally and spiritually as a species. To explore, Push the boundaries of what is known is the true nature of man, when we focus on that nature we progress as a species in whole.

Random Thoughts 1-17-2018


011_thumb.jpgOn my path through life I was faced with the decision of either continuing down a path that was killing my spirit slowly, a place of employment where I could not be myself and I was constantly put down. Well to make the story short after a supervisor yelled at me and threatened me I chose to walk away. After which I found so many people willing to be there for me in heart, spirit and even financially. I feel the Negative forces of the universe thought it would destroy me and in the end it just gave me more faith in humanity and God.

Though Times may get rough for me down the road far as finances, I will survive and I shall find a new path to walk. More faith in my heart and soul than there has been in over a decade or two I face the road ahead with many by my side. The point is this, No matter what life may throw at you there is always the good things it throws in with it, if your willing to accept them or not they are there. Just good to see folks living by the ideal that he/she is not heavy he/she is my brother/sister mentality and heart.

Thank you and God Bless every one of you for the Moral support and financial as well. I am so blessed to have good friends, be they online or in person…

 

Random Thoughts 12-18-2017


The young man looks forward to growing older, to have the freedom to be who he desires to be. Unaware of the price of his freedom he marches forward in time relentlessly reaching out for the day of freedom. When he finally obtains the freedom he desires he finds responsibility, social constraints and a life time of work ahead of him. The Now older man looks behind him seeing he had far more freedom as a child than now as an adult. When a child he could be himself, express himself freely and live each day to its fullest. The older man becomes even older only to realize the freedom he sought both as a child and as an adult had been his all along, it was his own mind and he always was free.

Freedom is never for free, there is responsibility to be had as well as accountability. Freedom is always yours from birth to your last days, no man nor prison can take away the freedom within your heart , mind and soul. Freedom is more than the ability to move about freely. The only person who can take away the freedom within is your self.

 

Random Thoughts 2-2-2017


IMG_1371-editedSitting here reflecting on my life and all the trials I have been through on my journey through life, I have noticed that many times in my life I was so blessed but I was blind to the treasures that was bestowed upon me . It is so easy only to see the curses in your life and overlook all the blessings that surround you. It seems that as humans we tend to focus on the tragedy of life more so than the wonder of it. 

We get caught up in the grass is always greener and why does our next door neighbor seem to have it better than we do mentality. Funny thing is our neighbor may be looking at our grass or our life and thinking the exact same thing.  We need to open our eyes and be appreciative of the wondrous gifts we have been given in our lives, we need to stop looking for something more or what we think may be better. We should mow our own grass and pull the weeds instead of trying to buy or steal the grass of our neighbors.

Yeah it all boils down to the old and worn out saying that life is what you make it. That saying is very accurate, though it forgets to mention it’s a  process that you must be vigilant at.  Making life how you want it is just like tending to a garden, you have to weed the garden and water it quite often to keep it beautiful and weed free.

All aspects of life require work to make it good and accepting that what you have is a blessing in progress and not a curse is a key to making a happier life. 

 

Be good to one another and be accepting of yourself and the life you have been blessed with

Raymond Barbier

Random thoughts 11-14-2016


Thanksgiving is just around the corner here in the United States, a time to give thanks for all that has been bestowed upon you and the blessing of life itself. It is the time of the year to remember those we have lost and a time to celebrate those we have found. It is also a time to realize how blessed we are to still be here and alive.

During this holiday season put your past and the past of others behind you and celebrate the gift of the here and now. Forgive and forget so the future we face will be a brighter one for all of us. Most of al forgive yourself, hard to move on to the future if your stuck in the regrets of things from your past. Embrace one another, for we are all we have here on this journey of life. Your friends and family are the foundation of your life and should be the ones you embrace and celebrate.

Hope each one of you have a blessed day and a happy Thanksgiving

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 11-10-2016


Life in the early years seems to be endless and full of wonder, not much keeps you down and all seems wonderful. As you grow you face the ups and downs of youth such as the judgement by your peers. Years you spend trying to be like the rest, trying to fit in and be accepted. In  the end you will find it was all a waste of time, trying to be someone other than you are is a big waste of time.

You are who you are, and for a good reason. You were meant to be yourself not someone else. Instead of putting all that energy into fitting in and being like others , you should put all of that energy into being the best version of you that you can be and let them try to fit in with you. We all are unique individuals, we need to be ourselves and stop being followers of social norms and be more of a unique collection of individuals.

Be true to who you are and be true to your uniqueness.

Raymond Barbier

Random Thoughts 11-1-2015


kids0060You can learn so much from kids and teens, their unfiltered view of the world and their ability to see things in a simplistic way. Seems as we grow older we attach a lot of unnecessary garbage to everything we experience in life as we grow older. I remember my father telling me a many of times that it isn’t as simple as that to me when i would express my opinions on things i observed as a child. I look back at a lot of those observations and i came to conclusion a good portion of them were that simple if not more so. Seems the older we get the more complicated we make life, we overthink most situations and add on beliefs and thoughts that complicates our lives. Some things are just black and white, those that are not are still not as complex as we make them. Sometimes i think we just allowed the world we live in to cloud our ability to see things clearly and block our ability to see things in their unadulterated pure form.

 

 

Much wisdom comes from the mouths of babes, the innocence they possess is a gift that allows them to see things as they really are.

Ray Barbier.

 

Random Thoughts 11-1-2015 was originally published on RJB Networks