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Random Thoughts 9-4-2017


In my life I have observed how easy it is to think from your personal perspective and be unaware of the total view of what is going on around myself. To be concerned for yourself and not interested in what other people are feeling, going through and how I may be actually affecting them. The thing is, this is quite common in humanity, the self preservation and self interest mentality. Even some of the most humble and compassionate people I have met fall prey to this mentality.

Most People are not totally self absorbed or selfish, but they do have times in which that side of them likes to rear its head.  Somewhere in life we all lost touch with the community or family mindset and fell to the me, myself and I way of thinking.  I do believe we need a small amount of that mindset, but our main way of thinking should be geared towards serving the family and community.  We need the uniqueness of separate identity but we also need the enriching experience of being a part of the whole.

The diversity within our species is a blessing we seem to take as a curse, we can not as a community except that which is different from what we believe or have experienced. This is one of the greatest problems we face in modern times. When will we get over the elitism, separatism, bigotry and vengeful side of our minds and hearts? When will we see we need the differences and diversity to survive and thrive, when will we see we need one another to make this world work?

The simple truth is we all are basically the same, the majority of us want a better future for ourselves and our children. Sure there is religious differences and cultural ones as well, but does that mean you must destroy or suppress that which is different from your own? We can all get along and except the different beliefs and opinions between us all if we wanted to. I do not know if its pride, fear or just lack of compassion that stops humanity from coming together and learning to be tolerant of each other.

Regardless of why, the fact remains we can not change the world if we do not change ourselves first. It is one of those things that starts from you and spreads outward as time goes. The choices you make, the words and actions you chose to say or do is what defines you in this world. It is what shapes your world and influences those around you. So be mindful of your actions and words, Have self respect and respect for all living creatures. Have compassion for others as you may one day need it in return. Life is what you put into it and make it .

Blessings

Raymond Barbier.

 

Random Thoughts 6-30-2017


The world we live in is a world of division, separation and is built around the belief one person, ideal, religion or political system is superior to another. We allow so much to separate us from each other, so much to obstruct human kind from becoming the wondrous creatures we could be. There are some in this world that do not care if everyone else believes as they do be it religious ,political or just in general. The differences between all of us could make us stronger and a unstoppable force. But unfortunately we don’t seem to be able to get beyond the fear and hate. We allow our differences to separate us and destroy the harmony and peace that could be ours. 

Imagine if you will a world where regardless of nationality, religion, beliefs and or social status we all get along and work together. Could you imagine the things as a untied species we could achieve. All the money put into the war machine could be focused on finding cures for diseases, renewable energies and even space exploration. We could find solutions to the problems we face in our time if we could pull together and work towards that goal.

To be honest it is some what disappointing that as civilized as we became as a species we still harbor such feelings as envy, hate and fear so abundantly and frequently. We should find the strength to put aside such feelings and put aside our differences as well for the good of all humanity and life on this planet.

Until we outgrow such things as greed, fear,envy and the lust for power as a species we will remain on this path that leads to the eventual extinction of humanity. Those feelings and desires will probably always plague our hearts and minds but we are capable of controlling and restraining such emotions and desires if we choose to do so. 

Humanity has such great potential, it has been shown through our ingenuity throughout the ages. If we learn to overcome the obstacles that keeps us separated , we can achieve the unbelievable and unthinkable.

 

The future belongs to everybody regardless if they be great or small in the eyes of society. What truly defines a person is their words and actions in life, not the opinions of others.

Raymond Barbier

Random thoughts 6-12-2017


Life is full of ups and downs, we all know this and experience such on a daily basis.  Sometimes we allow the downs to be the focus of our thoughts. When we do such we give the downside of life to take control of our emotions and guide our actions. By doing such we tend to get stuck in a defensive posture and in a negative mindset.  We react to the situation we are experiencing instead of being proactive and constructively active in life.  If one get stuck in the reactionary and defensive mindset they slip in to the oppressed and depressed emotional state that just amplifies the negative situation.

Sure we have bad days and lows in our life, its part of life and without them we could not see how fortunate we are when the good times come.  Focusing only on those bad times only brings one grief and it influences your attitude which plays a big part in your total emotional happiness and well being.  I personally do not believe that one can always be happy or have a life full of only good days, but I do believe one can negate most of the bad days and negative effects they bring to one emotionally and physically.

If a Bad day comes, embrace it and let it follow its course until it ends. Then let it go , move forward only remembering any lessons learned and leave the negative emotions behind. Start the next day fresh with no thought or care of what happened the day before. For each morning we wake is yet another chance at life and happiness. Forgiveness is one key to such happiness and freedom from the pain and guilt from bad days. Forgiving not only those people that has done you wrong but also forgiveness for yourself and for the mistakes you made.

Enjoy the good days you have with all your heart and enjoy the blessing of the people that you have been given to enjoy those days with. Love each person for who and what they are as well as your own self. Do not allow hate, fear or indifference be roadblocks to happiness and harmony with the world around you.  Put all your thoughts and energy into the positive and happy things of life not into the negative  or destructive. 

There is many paths to peace and happiness, and not every path is meant for every person who walks them. Seek out that which brings you happiness and follow that path as long as it does not cause harm to yourself or others.

Random thoughts 2-24-2017


IMG_0097bOne Voice, That is what each and every one of us has in the sea of voices in our world. One lifetime is all the time we have to shine and impact the world we live in. There are many who try to drown out the voices of others and some that will do anything to keep you from letting your voice be heard. DO not allow this to happen for your voice may be one of an infinite amount within the symphony of life, but it is as important as any other persons voice.  Behind your voice is the unique mind and soul that only one person possess, which is you. 

For in this world the best way to enact change is to change the hearts of the people around you. Inspire others to do better and achieve greater things within their lifetime.  You do not have to be a politician or well known personality to change the hearts of the people in the world, you only have to be yourself and teach others through example. Live what you believe, inspire others to do the same and except that each of us will have different ideas and paths to walk. Enlighten and be enlightened for no man or woman is ever done learning and growing , for there is always more to learn and experience.

Go and be yourself in this world, shine for who god lead you to be and love one another with no conditions.

Raymond Barbier 

Random Thoughts 2/14/2017


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  On Valentines day we are reminded about how fortunate we are to have someone in this world we love and hopefully loves us back.  The traditional buying candy, flowers and gifts for each other or just a greeting card is wonderful as long as we remember to express our feelings through words and actions as well.  Today is a good day to forgive your significant other for their mistakes and shortcomings as well as forgive ourselves for our own.

Most people do not realize how rare and wonderful it is to have someone to take this journey of life beside us, to walk alone is not a easy task in life and to walk beside another though challenging is far more wonderful than going it solo.  Remember your Love one is also your friend and as such you need to build a great relationship full of understanding and compassion between you two. Work together not against each other and seek out a harmonious partnership if it possible.

Also on Valentines day you need to Tell those friends that are there for you through life how much you appreciate them as well. They play an important part in your life and sometimes fill the gaps in your life that your special someone may not be able to do all the time. Someone to lean on, to talk to and just be yourself with. 

Blessings and Love be yours

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts–2/6/2017


018  Acceptance, something most of us crave and need to be a functional and somewhat happy individual. A lot of the time we are accepted by our peers but we have a hard time accepting ourselves.  Our brain takes what we think about ourselves and uses it to filter the world around us, so even if someone is loved, appreciated and accepted they may feel the total opposite of that if they have a poor self image and can not accept themselves for who and what they are.

If most people would just spend 1/4 of the time they do on trying to be accepted by others on improving their self image and in accepting themselves then they would be much happier in their lives.  Learning to accept yourself with all your faults and bad habits is not a walk in the park, but it is not a non obtainable goal. The first thing is learning to forgive yourself for the things you did that you consider wrong or mistakes. The baggage of past actions only builds guilt, which guilt has a purpose but it is not meant to be lifelong thing.  Forgive yourself, your only human and you will make mistakes along the way. Learn from them, forgive yourself and move on. Let go of your past, don’t live in the past for it only steals away today. If you have things you do still that bother you then work hard on changing them, but until you change them learn to accept that side of yourself and forgive yourself for not being perfect.

Focus on serving others, to do good for others is a great way to improve your self image and worth. It also teaches you to consider others above yourself at times. Find activities that make you feel better about yourself and get out and socialize, being an island unto yourself is not the best way to live, it only opens you up to being lonely and disconnected from the world we live in.  Just remember no matter what you have done in your life, that you deserve to be happy and live life to its fullest.  Even if it was something horrible, that was then and this is now, learn to be a better person and live a happy and productive life like we all should live.

 

Blessings and happiness to you all

Raymond Barbier

Random Thoughts 2-2-2017


IMG_1371-editedSitting here reflecting on my life and all the trials I have been through on my journey through life, I have noticed that many times in my life I was so blessed but I was blind to the treasures that was bestowed upon me . It is so easy only to see the curses in your life and overlook all the blessings that surround you. It seems that as humans we tend to focus on the tragedy of life more so than the wonder of it. 

We get caught up in the grass is always greener and why does our next door neighbor seem to have it better than we do mentality. Funny thing is our neighbor may be looking at our grass or our life and thinking the exact same thing.  We need to open our eyes and be appreciative of the wondrous gifts we have been given in our lives, we need to stop looking for something more or what we think may be better. We should mow our own grass and pull the weeds instead of trying to buy or steal the grass of our neighbors.

Yeah it all boils down to the old and worn out saying that life is what you make it. That saying is very accurate, though it forgets to mention it’s a  process that you must be vigilant at.  Making life how you want it is just like tending to a garden, you have to weed the garden and water it quite often to keep it beautiful and weed free.

All aspects of life require work to make it good and accepting that what you have is a blessing in progress and not a curse is a key to making a happier life. 

 

Be good to one another and be accepting of yourself and the life you have been blessed with

Raymond Barbier

Random thoughts 11-14-2016


Thanksgiving is just around the corner here in the United States, a time to give thanks for all that has been bestowed upon you and the blessing of life itself. It is the time of the year to remember those we have lost and a time to celebrate those we have found. It is also a time to realize how blessed we are to still be here and alive.

During this holiday season put your past and the past of others behind you and celebrate the gift of the here and now. Forgive and forget so the future we face will be a brighter one for all of us. Most of al forgive yourself, hard to move on to the future if your stuck in the regrets of things from your past. Embrace one another, for we are all we have here on this journey of life. Your friends and family are the foundation of your life and should be the ones you embrace and celebrate.

Hope each one of you have a blessed day and a happy Thanksgiving

Ray Barbier

Mind Exposure 03-01-16


Sometimes we get so caught up in our own emotions, thoughts and ego that we overlook the fact that the other person in front of us has feelings of their own. We allow our own pain and frustration cloud our vision of what is really going on. We all suffer from loneliness, self-doubt and emotional pain in life. No one has a monopoly on such things and we should try to be more understanding and compassionate towards others, because they too suffer as we do in life.

Forgiveness and empathy are keys to a happy relationship, the understanding of the fact we all are the same far as what we suffer in life opens up the door to forgiveness. Remember we all are human therefore we shall make mistakes, we all feel similar feelings and experience very similar hardships in life. If you look at it like each one of us are a part of a whole, then you will see that if one piece of the whole is broken the whole suffers. So to be compassionate, forgiving and empathetic towards the other pieces is beneficial to the whole as much as it is to the individual.

 

Mind Exposure 03-01-16 was originally published on Mind Exposure

Mind Exposure 2-27-2016


Walking while looking behind you only makes one trip on what’s in front of them. So best to leave the past in the past and focus on what is both immediately in front of you and that which is ahead of you in life. The present is where you should be focusing and never hurts to prepare and plan for the future a bit as well. But just like the past, the future can cause you to miss what is right in front of you.

Celebrate, Embrace and Cherish whom and what you have here and now in your life, for it all can easily slip away in flash. Hold on to who you have to love, let them know how you feel daily, for life is short in time and we should be thankful for the blessings we have.

Mind Exposure 2-27-2016 was originally published on Mind Exposure