Category Archives: Thought of the day

Random Thoughts 1-28-2018

004_thumb.jpg When I was young I was an idealist, dreamer and believer in humanity.  Now as I grow older and reached the half century mark I am not as much of a dreamer but I still fight to be an idealist. My belief in humanities potential has not changed but my belief in their willingness to change has diminished. It still there, just now I see things from more of a realistic view for the dreamer is not dead just less optimistic I guess. I believe that the internet and mass media played a big part on the decline of my optimism. The constant onslaught of information being consumed comes with a heavy toll. Bad news always prevails over the news of miracles and good news. Just how it has always been in this human world far back as the first spoken and/or written word.

I dare not give up on believing in a possible future where humanity works together for the common good instead of individualistic goals or gains. As humans we are wired to be selfish because we have our own perspective of what reality and life is. We are geared for self preservation and self promotion. The mind is geared that way to ensure survival, but we also have the side of us which is compassionate and focused on the group, the emotional side of ourselves is geared to ensure survival of the group and/or species in a whole. The problem is most people have imbalance between those two sides , Some tend to see taking care of themselves as the highest priority and the taking care of the group or whole as the lowest.  Both should be high priority, the whole should be the highest but the self should be right next to it in priority.

For if one is either totally selfless or completely selfish it does not serve the group or themselves in the end. Look at it in this way, if you had a horse and it worked selflessly, not eating or drinking to pull a wagon to market it may die before it makes it there. Just the same if it was selfish and ate, drank and rested all the time for it would either never reach its destination or would reach it too late.  One extreme or the other does no one any good, I will not say there is not times that we may have to make sacrifices or be totally selfless to get jobs done, just pointing out that only in extreme circumstances that we should do such.

Well Thank you for reading the ramblings of this old fool, and may you find your own path in life.


Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts 1-26-2018

002_thumb.jpgWhen someone begins to believe they have all the answers is when that person loses their perspective and their hold on reality. One should always be open-minded and willing to dig for the truth, not just accept the readily available and accepted beliefs. For at one time in our history we all believed the universe revolved around the earth and that the earth was flat. To the available facts we had during those periods in history who was to argue with those beliefs? Well the few great thinkers and explorers who did not accept the then known beliefs did.

It is the curious minds, those minds not set in concrete that pave the way for humanity, we must reach beyond what we know to be true and into the unknown if we are to evolve mentally and spiritually as a species. To explore, Push the boundaries of what is known is the true nature of man, when we focus on that nature we progress as a species in whole.

Random Thoughts 1-17-2018

011_thumb.jpgOn my path through life I was faced with the decision of either continuing down a path that was killing my spirit slowly, a place of employment where I could not be myself and I was constantly put down. Well to make the story short after a supervisor yelled at me and threatened me I chose to walk away. After which I found so many people willing to be there for me in heart, spirit and even financially. I feel the Negative forces of the universe thought it would destroy me and in the end it just gave me more faith in humanity and God.

Though Times may get rough for me down the road far as finances, I will survive and I shall find a new path to walk. More faith in my heart and soul than there has been in over a decade or two I face the road ahead with many by my side. The point is this, No matter what life may throw at you there is always the good things it throws in with it, if your willing to accept them or not they are there. Just good to see folks living by the ideal that he/she is not heavy he/she is my brother/sister mentality and heart.

Thank you and God Bless every one of you for the Moral support and financial as well. I am so blessed to have good friends, be they online or in person…


Random Thoughts 12-18-2017

The young man looks forward to growing older, to have the freedom to be who he desires to be. Unaware of the price of his freedom he marches forward in time relentlessly reaching out for the day of freedom. When he finally obtains the freedom he desires he finds responsibility, social constraints and a life time of work ahead of him. The Now older man looks behind him seeing he had far more freedom as a child than now as an adult. When a child he could be himself, express himself freely and live each day to its fullest. The older man becomes even older only to realize the freedom he sought both as a child and as an adult had been his all along, it was his own mind and he always was free.

Freedom is never for free, there is responsibility to be had as well as accountability. Freedom is always yours from birth to your last days, no man nor prison can take away the freedom within your heart , mind and soul. Freedom is more than the ability to move about freely. The only person who can take away the freedom within is your self.


Random Thoughts 9-4-2017

In my life I have observed how easy it is to think from your personal perspective and be unaware of the total view of what is going on around myself. To be concerned for yourself and not interested in what other people are feeling, going through and how I may be actually affecting them. The thing is, this is quite common in humanity, the self preservation and self interest mentality. Even some of the most humble and compassionate people I have met fall prey to this mentality.

Most People are not totally self absorbed or selfish, but they do have times in which that side of them likes to rear its head.  Somewhere in life we all lost touch with the community or family mindset and fell to the me, myself and I way of thinking.  I do believe we need a small amount of that mindset, but our main way of thinking should be geared towards serving the family and community.  We need the uniqueness of separate identity but we also need the enriching experience of being a part of the whole.

The diversity within our species is a blessing we seem to take as a curse, we can not as a community except that which is different from what we believe or have experienced. This is one of the greatest problems we face in modern times. When will we get over the elitism, separatism, bigotry and vengeful side of our minds and hearts? When will we see we need the differences and diversity to survive and thrive, when will we see we need one another to make this world work?

The simple truth is we all are basically the same, the majority of us want a better future for ourselves and our children. Sure there is religious differences and cultural ones as well, but does that mean you must destroy or suppress that which is different from your own? We can all get along and except the different beliefs and opinions between us all if we wanted to. I do not know if its pride, fear or just lack of compassion that stops humanity from coming together and learning to be tolerant of each other.

Regardless of why, the fact remains we can not change the world if we do not change ourselves first. It is one of those things that starts from you and spreads outward as time goes. The choices you make, the words and actions you chose to say or do is what defines you in this world. It is what shapes your world and influences those around you. So be mindful of your actions and words, Have self respect and respect for all living creatures. Have compassion for others as you may one day need it in return. Life is what you put into it and make it .


Raymond Barbier.


Random Thoughts 6-30-2017

The world we live in is a world of division, separation and is built around the belief one person, ideal, religion or political system is superior to another. We allow so much to separate us from each other, so much to obstruct human kind from becoming the wondrous creatures we could be. There are some in this world that do not care if everyone else believes as they do be it religious ,political or just in general. The differences between all of us could make us stronger and a unstoppable force. But unfortunately we don’t seem to be able to get beyond the fear and hate. We allow our differences to separate us and destroy the harmony and peace that could be ours. 

Imagine if you will a world where regardless of nationality, religion, beliefs and or social status we all get along and work together. Could you imagine the things as a untied species we could achieve. All the money put into the war machine could be focused on finding cures for diseases, renewable energies and even space exploration. We could find solutions to the problems we face in our time if we could pull together and work towards that goal.

To be honest it is some what disappointing that as civilized as we became as a species we still harbor such feelings as envy, hate and fear so abundantly and frequently. We should find the strength to put aside such feelings and put aside our differences as well for the good of all humanity and life on this planet.

Until we outgrow such things as greed, fear,envy and the lust for power as a species we will remain on this path that leads to the eventual extinction of humanity. Those feelings and desires will probably always plague our hearts and minds but we are capable of controlling and restraining such emotions and desires if we choose to do so. 

Humanity has such great potential, it has been shown through our ingenuity throughout the ages. If we learn to overcome the obstacles that keeps us separated , we can achieve the unbelievable and unthinkable.


The future belongs to everybody regardless if they be great or small in the eyes of society. What truly defines a person is their words and actions in life, not the opinions of others.

Raymond Barbier

Random thoughts 6-12-2017

Life is full of ups and downs, we all know this and experience such on a daily basis.  Sometimes we allow the downs to be the focus of our thoughts. When we do such we give the downside of life to take control of our emotions and guide our actions. By doing such we tend to get stuck in a defensive posture and in a negative mindset.  We react to the situation we are experiencing instead of being proactive and constructively active in life.  If one get stuck in the reactionary and defensive mindset they slip in to the oppressed and depressed emotional state that just amplifies the negative situation.

Sure we have bad days and lows in our life, its part of life and without them we could not see how fortunate we are when the good times come.  Focusing only on those bad times only brings one grief and it influences your attitude which plays a big part in your total emotional happiness and well being.  I personally do not believe that one can always be happy or have a life full of only good days, but I do believe one can negate most of the bad days and negative effects they bring to one emotionally and physically.

If a Bad day comes, embrace it and let it follow its course until it ends. Then let it go , move forward only remembering any lessons learned and leave the negative emotions behind. Start the next day fresh with no thought or care of what happened the day before. For each morning we wake is yet another chance at life and happiness. Forgiveness is one key to such happiness and freedom from the pain and guilt from bad days. Forgiving not only those people that has done you wrong but also forgiveness for yourself and for the mistakes you made.

Enjoy the good days you have with all your heart and enjoy the blessing of the people that you have been given to enjoy those days with. Love each person for who and what they are as well as your own self. Do not allow hate, fear or indifference be roadblocks to happiness and harmony with the world around you.  Put all your thoughts and energy into the positive and happy things of life not into the negative  or destructive. 

There is many paths to peace and happiness, and not every path is meant for every person who walks them. Seek out that which brings you happiness and follow that path as long as it does not cause harm to yourself or others.

Random thoughts 2-24-2017

IMG_0097bOne Voice, That is what each and every one of us has in the sea of voices in our world. One lifetime is all the time we have to shine and impact the world we live in. There are many who try to drown out the voices of others and some that will do anything to keep you from letting your voice be heard. DO not allow this to happen for your voice may be one of an infinite amount within the symphony of life, but it is as important as any other persons voice.  Behind your voice is the unique mind and soul that only one person possess, which is you. 

For in this world the best way to enact change is to change the hearts of the people around you. Inspire others to do better and achieve greater things within their lifetime.  You do not have to be a politician or well known personality to change the hearts of the people in the world, you only have to be yourself and teach others through example. Live what you believe, inspire others to do the same and except that each of us will have different ideas and paths to walk. Enlighten and be enlightened for no man or woman is ever done learning and growing , for there is always more to learn and experience.

Go and be yourself in this world, shine for who god lead you to be and love one another with no conditions.

Raymond Barbier 

Random Thoughts 2/14/2017


  On Valentines day we are reminded about how fortunate we are to have someone in this world we love and hopefully loves us back.  The traditional buying candy, flowers and gifts for each other or just a greeting card is wonderful as long as we remember to express our feelings through words and actions as well.  Today is a good day to forgive your significant other for their mistakes and shortcomings as well as forgive ourselves for our own.

Most people do not realize how rare and wonderful it is to have someone to take this journey of life beside us, to walk alone is not a easy task in life and to walk beside another though challenging is far more wonderful than going it solo.  Remember your Love one is also your friend and as such you need to build a great relationship full of understanding and compassion between you two. Work together not against each other and seek out a harmonious partnership if it possible.

Also on Valentines day you need to Tell those friends that are there for you through life how much you appreciate them as well. They play an important part in your life and sometimes fill the gaps in your life that your special someone may not be able to do all the time. Someone to lean on, to talk to and just be yourself with. 

Blessings and Love be yours

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts–2/6/2017

018  Acceptance, something most of us crave and need to be a functional and somewhat happy individual. A lot of the time we are accepted by our peers but we have a hard time accepting ourselves.  Our brain takes what we think about ourselves and uses it to filter the world around us, so even if someone is loved, appreciated and accepted they may feel the total opposite of that if they have a poor self image and can not accept themselves for who and what they are.

If most people would just spend 1/4 of the time they do on trying to be accepted by others on improving their self image and in accepting themselves then they would be much happier in their lives.  Learning to accept yourself with all your faults and bad habits is not a walk in the park, but it is not a non obtainable goal. The first thing is learning to forgive yourself for the things you did that you consider wrong or mistakes. The baggage of past actions only builds guilt, which guilt has a purpose but it is not meant to be lifelong thing.  Forgive yourself, your only human and you will make mistakes along the way. Learn from them, forgive yourself and move on. Let go of your past, don’t live in the past for it only steals away today. If you have things you do still that bother you then work hard on changing them, but until you change them learn to accept that side of yourself and forgive yourself for not being perfect.

Focus on serving others, to do good for others is a great way to improve your self image and worth. It also teaches you to consider others above yourself at times. Find activities that make you feel better about yourself and get out and socialize, being an island unto yourself is not the best way to live, it only opens you up to being lonely and disconnected from the world we live in.  Just remember no matter what you have done in your life, that you deserve to be happy and live life to its fullest.  Even if it was something horrible, that was then and this is now, learn to be a better person and live a happy and productive life like we all should live.


Blessings and happiness to you all

Raymond Barbier